I could use some P&PT

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I could use some P&PT
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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 1:32pm

I briefly mentioned in my response to schwanny below that Jason has been struggling with an eating disorder of his own.

Pam

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 2:18pm

Oh, Pam, all kinds of positive thoughts heading you guys' way.

I got that way (but not to that extreme) when I broke up with a guy (my 'first', if you know what I mean; we'd talked marriage but he then 'cheated' on me and I just couldn't forgive him and felt really down) at 27; I lost a ton of weight from just not wanting to eat/do anything and it made me feel sick. I decided that although the new 'number' on the scale looked cool, I felt awful, and decided it wasn't worth looking like a stick (trendy) feeling like that. I would like to hope that Jason, being a very bright person, would end up the same way. It took me a while not to obsess about what I was eating, but eventually I got back to more 'normal' (end of high school weight) and have pretty much stayed there since.

Best to you guys...you'll be in my thoughts.

Sue

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 3:03pm

P&PT definitely heading your way.

It must feel that things have gotten worse before they have gotten better, but hopefully since Jason's therapist actually mentioned anexoria to him, he'll really pay attention and work hard at overcoming all this. I know it must be so difficult for him.

And I can only imagine your concern in his going off to college this fall. Isn't he just a few hours or four away from home? Hopefully he can work his class schedule so he can continue seeing his therapist every week and not have it cut into the rest of his life. You know, where he isn't having to rush back and forth between class and home, and still have time to be a college kid.

My heart goes out to all of you guys, it's got to be hard on everyone. {{{{hugs}}}}}

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 6:20pm

{{{Pam}}} Sending many gentle hugs to you and yours. How worried you must be - I'm so sorry for what you're going through with Jason; it truly is frightening to watch and know that there is little you can do about it.

I hope that the counseling helps as well as the AD's - Any chance you could set up an appt with a nutritionist to go over appropriate foods and calories for his height and body frame? When I was about 17 I stopped eating and did pass out. My counselor hooked me up with a nutritionist and it helped.

Bst of luck~

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 6:42pm

I would be beside myself with worry.

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 7:01pm

So sorry you are all having to deal with this...

My boys have been 'too' thin but it's never been concious. Actually, it's just the opposite-they get distracted and forget to eat. They couldnt tell you the calorie count in anything!!!

This is scary and I don't blame you one bit for worrying about school. Trevor heads off for his freshman year the 18th of August and worrying about eating healthy is on my mind and this would escalate the worry through the roof

Is Jason a perfectionist? Trevor was as a youngster-hes slacked off so much in the past 3 years its impossible to even see a remnant of that but..Im sure its still there.

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 7:46pm

{{{HUGS}}} Pam! Sending lots of good vibes and positive thoughts as I'm sure you are sick with worry. I hope the therapy and counseling help keep Jason on track before he heads back to college.

Julie

 

 

 

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 10:26pm
Hi Pam,
There are all kinds of support groups on college campuses. Is he willing to go to therapy now? If so, he will probably seek a support group out on his own to keep his progress going. I hate to say this, but it took me six years of counseling off and on to get over my eating disorder. My mom was the one who had me put in a hospital for it... but then after that I was on my own. I am greatful she did it because I wanted the help and did NOT know what to do at that age. Keep praying that the right things cross his path. They will. And if he is willing to accept help, he will get better. A lot has to do with HIM deciding he wants to change, otherwise there is nothing you can do. I know that is so hard, but if you ask once in awhile how things are going he will know you care and it will prompt him to think. I hope everything is going to be okay.... it probably will, but it may take some time (probably more than you think). By the way, I like your hair. I haven't been on the board for a while and didn't know you got a haircut.
Deb
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Sat, 07-15-2006 - 8:01am

{{{{{{Pam}}}}}}


I haven't been around much lately, too much going on with my own kids at the moment, but I think of the folks here often.


Praying for that DS of yours.... it's so hard to see them hurting, worrying about them all the time.

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Sat, 07-15-2006 - 9:41am

I'm so sorry that he is having these problems and am sending you some big cyberhugs. I'm very, very proud of him for going to therapy and at least not being defensive about it. He's thinking and trying to process what is being said - that's a very good thing.

Please know that you can count on all of us for prayers and positive thoughts!

Lia

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Sat, 07-15-2006 - 9:50am

Pam, I'm so sorry you and Jason are going through this. We've gone through the obsessive working out thing with Chris, even though he eats it seems like it isn't enough given his activity level and he frequently loses large amounts of weight in short periods of time. It is a little scary.

I think it's great that Jason has found a therapist he is connecting with. It isn't going to be a quick fix though and I understand your nervousness at sending him back to school. Like one other poster mentioned, there are probably some support groups on campus, maybe you could even make a call to student services and inquire before he heads back?

Lots of P & PT headed your way!

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