I Feel Sooooo Old
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| Sun, 03-12-2006 - 9:44pm |
Took DD shopping today. Since she wears uniforms to school, when it comes time to put on something other than jeans, well, there isn't much for her to chose from. So, off to the mall we went.
In spite of the rain and snow we experienced this weekend -- yup, you read that right, snow in San Diego county this weekend and LOTS of it -- spring is on the way and there are some really cute clothes out there this year! Nothing I would look good in but DD is so cute and so well proportioned that everything looks great on her.
I look in the mirror and see O-L-D. Where did the years go? And what happened to my youthful figure? Seems like DD is wearing it now.
I came home and DH and DS were watching some sort of tv special on the making of the very first Star Wars movie. I remember seeing that movie with my first real boyfriend on what was pretty much my first real date in high school -- a gazillion years ago.
Yikes. Just feeling old and decrepit here tonight. Guess that's what happens when you wait till your 30 to have children. You get old fast.
BIG sigh ....

Yeah, I hate that "old" feeling, too! The other day I was playing around with the radio, trying to find a good station. I finally found one, sang along with a couple of good songs, and then the announcer came on and said something about "...your favorite oldies station...". C'mon, ACDC and Aerosmith are now "oldies" bands? Sad...
Jane
I feel your pain!! A kid asked my DS6 yesterday if I was his grandma! I know I'm going grey, but hey!! I don't look old enough to be his grandma do I? (I mean in order to *be* his grandmother, we'd have had two generations of <20yo moms).
I've already told my DD14 that when the 80s songs are on the Oldies' stations, I'm never listening to radio again (it's painful enough that the 70s, my HS years, are oldies!).
And IKWYM about shopping - I love that my DD looks cute and perfect in any clothes she wants - but a tiny bit of me is jealous that I don't (very tiny bit!)
Sue
Julie,
We all have those "old" moments! Some things to consider: When you handed off your youthful figure to your dd, you also handed her zits and youthful insecurity. Everything comes with a price but, as Garrison Keillor put it, each year that a birthday rolls around is "another year walking ON TOP of the grass"! (I love that!)
Not to make light of your musings .... If it helps at all, when you were seeing that Star Wars movie with your first date, I was married and getting ready to attend my first high school reunion!
I had to laugh about the clothes thing. I was going to start a new thread about this, but here is as good a place as any... If you ever REALLY want to feel humble, go through your closet with a teen...preferably a teen girl. We have tiny tiny closets in our 80 year old house, so I use the spare room closet for off season clothes. I started cleaning it out the other day to get ready for our exchange student. Dd came in and started to "help". Her manner of helping was to laugh hysterically at some of the things that had found their way to the very back of the closet... formals from when I had my photo studio and often attended charity events (to use the vernacular, they were "HOT" - or at least they were in 1985), the jumpers and sack dresses that were all the rage in the early 90's, tapered peg-leg pants (thank God I got rid of the stirrup pants a long time ago!). I kept my sense of humor but boy, oh boy, did I feel hopelessly out of touch. I started with a Yes, No and Maybe pile and ended up with a HUGE No pile and a tiny yes pile. The good news is that I'm down to one closet (we also went through that one with continued gales of laughter from dd).
So, raise your glass of prune juice and rejoice!
jt
GRANDMA!!! Oh my ... that's awful. So far, no one has mistaken me for a granny ... thank goodness! I sure feel like one when I look in the mirror though! And these old bones (and joints, and muscles, and well, EVERYTHING) just don't quite work like they used to.
The funny thing about the music ... both DD and DS like the 'oldies' -- Styx, Rolling Stones, Beatles, Journey, etc. Course they throw in some of that new 'trash' from time to time - LOL. Now I DO sound like an old granny!
Julie
Oh jt ... you made me smile. Guess I need to run out and get me some prune juice. Maybe if I drink it in a wine glass it won't seem so pitiful?
As far as those zits and insecurities go? Still got 'em -- can you believe that? Well, the zits are mostly under control (thanks to my fanatical skin care regime) but still an issue, unfortunately. And I must say that my 14yo DD is far more self-confident, self-assured and poised than I ever was -- than I am, even today. Maybe that is why is such a shock to look in the mirror and see OLD! I still have these hangups from my teenage years!
Just reading everyone's posts makes me feel better. This growing older businesss is just an inevitable fact of life, I suppose. Our babies grow into teenagers and we ... just grow old.
I confessed to DH last night how I was feeling and he was very, very sweet. He said 'you've always had a beautiful face' and that he 'loves my curves'! What a guy, huh? Every now and then he redeems himself and comes through for me in a big way.
Hope you had a good weekend.
Julie
i just remembered the funniest story ----
i went back to college last year, I am 45, most of the students are obviously very early 20s. we had an assignment in one class: teacher told us to pick a song, any song we like - and analyze the words of the song (as if it were a poem). then after he had checked them, we had to switch with a *buddy* in the class, and analyze the other person's essay, and then we met in pairs with the teacher to discuss the two essays (ours and the 'buddy's)
soooooo i chose "puff the magic dragon" and the "buddy" chose some song that i had vaguely heard of but didn't know. so when we met with the teacher, i said, that i didn't know "her" song. and this young woman said to us ---- well, i had never heard of "your" song!!! Teacher and I were quite flabbergasted.... never heard of Puff??? geez.... talk about feelilng old....
As you know, I'm right there with you, Pam. And yanno, having to wear reading glasses doesn't help that skin look any younger either!
Sue
Hey Jules,
We had snow on our hills this weekend too, first time in more than 25 years! It was so beautiful, we felt like we were in Tahoe. We tried to take pictures, but none came out very good. Oh, well the town newspaper had a good one on the front page - major news here in our little town south of Silicon Valley.
Our daughters do have a way of making us moms feel old, don't they? I feel a mixture of pride and envy when I look at my dd's figure. I remember when I used to have one, too. LOL. Oh, well at least dh still likes my figure. What I do to combat the feelings of getting old is to work out and try to eat healthy. I'm good about it 90% of the time - I slip up every now and then, what the heck? I will never again have the hourglass figure of my youth. So what? I agree with the OP - I would never trade the confidence I feel today for those feelings of doubt and insecurity that come with youth. As the old saying goes, "Youth is wasted on the young!"