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I hope I don't....
| Tue, 12-18-2007 - 5:31pm |
Get kicked of the boards for this, and I guess if you never see me posting again, that is what happened, but I really have to say that I am so sad at what I think is going on on this board.

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I just wanted to jump in here. I've been away all day, and couldn't believe how this thread exploded in the meantime. I agree wholeheartedly with Daddioe that if this is, in fact, a troll, they have accomplished their mission of discord and chaos. But we can put a stop to that with this thread.
I would also like to add that, yes, the long, rambling, incessant posts have stopped (to an extent), but they have been replaced by what I still suspect are new identities. Once many of us started to ignore this person's posts, there would magically appear a "new" poster--with a near-identical writing style--to respond to her in the most complimentary fashion. They would then correspond back and forth....this happened repeatedly. It ties up the board and just undermines its credibility, especially since it does make some of us leery of new people (when we really would like to be warm & welcoming). The proposed solution of simply hitting "ignore user" doesn't work when they keep coming back in different forms, and although the CM says they haven't detected that, I have a really hard time believing that they aren't the same person. I think we are pretty certain about at least one of them.
That said, I think we need to show that we are all sticking together and not letting this situation cause the board to deteriorate in any way. I feel like I've made lots of great friends here, and I've gotten great advice. I want all of the lurkers out there and any newcomers to have the same opportunities.
I also really appreciate the CM allowing us to air our thoughts in this thread. I think it will be very helpful!
I'm with ej, I was gone for the day and this thread has totally exploded. I have now read through all the posts here and pretty much agree with what ej has said. I want to keep this board safe and secure for all of us and for new people who come along.
I know some feel that this person is a very needy person and that may be true, she may very well be a very insecure person who needs lots of support, but when it was suggested to her that maybe she needed to get more help than we could offer, she became defensive and insulted. Those of us that tried to help her with some advice were told basically that we would be ignored from now on. So be it, it doesn't matter to me if that person wants my advice or not. I do what I can do and I call 'em as I see 'em.
I have made some really good friends on this board and I take what they say to heart, I will continue to post here and try to feel as comfortable as I was before. I am hoping that others will continue to post. If someone isn't comfortable any longer with posting things they feel are too personal, they can always talk with some of us in chat or e-mail us and we will deal with it.
I know many of us that have been around a long time have a good relationship going and want to be able to continue that and to come to have lasting friendships with others here. There are a lot of people on this board that have seen and heard and dealt with a lot over the years and I want new people to be comfortable in asking and responding to any posts that are here.
All that being said, I hope this difficult time will come to a close. I know the trust is going to take a while to come back, but if we work at it we don't need to let this continue as a problem. I let another difficult poster drive me away before and it won't happen again.
Wow....I had no idea what was going on so I had to search through the past couple of months of posts to try and figure it out and I'm supposed to be working right now!
chillie, no need to feel bad. There are a lot of people like yourself who come and go. You are not the type of person we are remotely having a problem with. Please feel free to come and go as you please. We know you have been in and out for a long time and that is not a problem in the least.
If you feel comfortable giving a response, do so. If someone has already said it, fine. We are glad to have you here.
I guess I should address you.
I've had one of those days when I've barely been able to come up for air, much less post here! :(
I don't often check profiles, so the lack of one isn't likely to get my radar up - neither is someone who comes and goes.
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wow.
bunnierose Quote: "if one identity is created at home, and the other away from home, say at the public library, and those location differences are consistently observed, how would they know if it's one person or not?"
You are correct.
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