I need help with a 15 year old girl

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2006
I need help with a 15 year old girl
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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 11:17am
I'm new to this board but I really need help. My husband is in the military and we have had to relocate after living in Texas for 16 years. My 15 year old daughter has caused nothing but problems since we moved here. We got her enrolled in school and almost immediately she started causing problems. When I take her to school she waits until I go to work then comes home. She has slept with a boy and had a pregnancy scare (she is on birth control but missed a few pills)she has lied to her new friends and me about many things. She has also started cutting on her body. She is always saying everyone hates her and no one wants her. I have had her in counseling before we moved and it hasn't helped. I am at the end of my rope. My husband does not know what else to do either other than to admit her to a Psychiatric hospital. Any information on this would be helpful.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 11:24am

hi and hugs...

honey - your dd needs help. please - try not to think of her as 'causing nothing but problems'. she is crying out for help - she is actually SCREAMING out for help. I don't know if admitting her to a psych ward is going to help either ( i am not saying it won't - i don't know). is she willing to go to therapy? if she is --- then get her back into therapy, and also you and your husband (and if there are other kids then them too) should get into family therapy because you are all going to have to support her and get her thru this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 1:39pm

Your DD does appear to be screaming for help, but doesn't know how to make it better on her own.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2006
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 2:18pm
Thank you for the help. I'm sorry...I did make a mistake by saying she has "caused" problems....it was a bad choice of wording. I know she needs help I just am not sure where to begin. And of course there is always more to every life drama. It just breaks my heart that I can't get through to her. I am going to see about counseling for her and our family. I just wanted to see what others thought.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-19-2003
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 6:53pm
If your husband is in the military then surely there are programs that are accessible to you and your family as a benefit of his being part of that organization. Look into whether you have a crisis or family support program available to you. They should help refer you to doctors or other services that can help out.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 05-08-2006 - 7:19am

ok - then if you agree that she needs help that's good. its really tough with these kids sometimes - i have my own 'dramas' with my son. some of the kids are just more sensitive or i don't know what - and it seems that they