I read something on myspace....

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Registered: 01-03-2006
I read something on myspace....
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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 7:46pm

that is not sitting well with me.


Like many others here, by 17YO DD is faced with drinking when out with friends. I don't know where they get it...it could also be that "parents" are allowing/providing it. I find out quite a bit of information on myspace.


My DD posts pics of herself and there is one in particular that I can tell she has been drinking. I even know what

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 1:36am

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It could just be a guy being what he thinks is ***really cool***.....or not.

What do I do with this??>>>

I'd take it very seriously. People don't usually call others "meth heads" if that person hasn't ever even tried it.

zz ---> who's family has been destroyed by meth and crack

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 7:49am

Wow... that is a tough one to read!

           

    

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 10:56am

I agree with the others in that you need to take this seriously. It could truly be a 'joke' -- definitely one in poor taste -- or not, but wouldn't you prefer to err on the side of caution? Rather than find out in a month or six that your DD really has been using?

I don't recall if your DD knows you look at her MySpace or if you are worried about her 'privacy' (in quotes because anything posted on a public venue like the Internet can't possibly be considered private!) or not, but in this case, I don't think I'd concern myself much with that.

Good luck and please post an update when you learn something.

 

 

 

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 11:20am

I would take this seriously. I have also been very close to drug use, and as zz, have had my family destroyed by it when I was a kid by my brother who now has 2 small children who are being raised by their grandparents because he is still a drug addict to this day as well as the mother of his children. And also by the death of my bil this past year who fell asleep at the wheel and hit a tree. He was a meth user and even though it was never proven we believe strongly that his drug use contributed to his accident.

My DD has witnessed the negative affects of drug use since she was a small child and her df and I have always been very open about it with her. And we have always told her that we have zero tolerance for drugs and if we ever suspected her of drug use then we would do whatever was necessary to keep her safe - that meant drug testing and rehab if it ever came to that.

I don't mean to jump the gun here and I'm not implying that just because this statement was made that your DD is using drugs and if she is I know that a lot of teens experiment with drugs and turn out just fine. However, a lot of them don't. IMHO most kids don't call eachother names like that unless it is true to some extent. "Many of truths spoken in jest." I would take this seriously and not worry about whether your DD accuses you of not trusting her which is always their first argument. It will be ugly but I would test her and I would also address the drinking. They may have been safe that time but what about the next time??

((((hugs)))) to you and good luck.

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 1:04pm

<<< It will be ugly but I would test her and I would also address the drinking. They may have been safe that time but what about the next time?? >>>

I just wanted to add that meth, and coke/crack, are usually gone out of the system within 3 days, whereas pot and barbituates can take quite a bit longer.

zz

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 12:27pm
I also monitor my kid's MySpace and IM messages. I don't want them to know that I monitor these places because I find out a lot of information there. I've told them a few times that another Mom send me a email with the questionable item attached (in this case the Meth captioned picture). It reminds them that Myspace is a public domain and also allows me to address the issue I'm concerned about. In our school district, many of the girl's baskeball players were suspended from play because of information the school administration found on Myspace. This type of monitoring is really happening out there. Good Luck to you!
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Registered: 08-18-2006
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 3:24pm
hello,I to check my daughter myspace all the time I don't know what to tell you because if you tell her you read her myspace things could get nasty and she will hate you,I'm in the same boat as you,just keep a check on myspace and if you find her in danger then maybe say something(like I said I to am in the same boat as you)good luck to you.
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Registered: 07-27-2006
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 9:20pm
for the picture comment, i don't know, personally i wouldn't take it that seriously. i'm a teen and a lot of kids will call each other "crackheads" and stuff like that when someone acts crazy or makes a funny face or looks less than attractive in a picture.
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Registered: 09-02-2004
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 9:33am

I agree, the kids call each other horrible nicknames, like "stoner", "hoe", "lesbo", "faggot" all the time! They think it's funny and my DD tells me it's all a joke. I don't know how much to believ that.

It seems with cell phones, internet, IM, etc., our kids are able to keep lots of secrets from their parents.

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Registered: 07-27-2006
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 5:27pm
yea. it's pretty stupid but i guess every generation has its stupid nicknames? i'm guilty of it myself at times. me and my best friend have a weird sense of humor and when we say bye to each other, sometimes we're like "love you, ho!" it's dumb but oh well. that's why i don't think the original poster should take it that seriously. but if you're really concerned, just be straight up with your daughter and say you saw something on her page that put you off.

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