I read something on myspace....
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I read something on myspace....
| Tue, 10-24-2006 - 7:46pm |
that is not sitting well with me.
Like many others here, by 17YO DD is faced with drinking when out with friends. I don't know where they get it...it could also be that "parents" are allowing/providing it. I find out quite a bit of information on myspace.
My DD posts pics of herself and there is one in particular that I can tell she has been drinking. I even know what


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It could just be a guy being what he thinks is ***really cool***.....or not.
What do I do with this??>>>
I'd take it very seriously. People don't usually call others "meth heads" if that person hasn't ever even tried it.
zz ---> who's family has been destroyed by meth and crack
Wow... that is a tough one to read!
I agree with the others in that you need to take this seriously. It could truly be a 'joke' -- definitely one in poor taste -- or not, but wouldn't you prefer to err on the side of caution? Rather than find out in a month or six that your DD really has been using?
I don't recall if your DD knows you look at her MySpace or if you are worried about her 'privacy' (in quotes because anything posted on a public venue like the Internet can't possibly be considered private!) or not, but in this case, I don't think I'd concern myself much with that.
Good luck and please post an update when you learn something.
I would take this seriously. I have also been very close to drug use, and as zz, have had my family destroyed by it when I was a kid by my brother who now has 2 small children who are being raised by their grandparents because he is still a drug addict to this day as well as the mother of his children. And also by the death of my bil this past year who fell asleep at the wheel and hit a tree. He was a meth user and even though it was never proven we believe strongly that his drug use contributed to his accident.
My DD has witnessed the negative affects of drug use since she was a small child and her df and I have always been very open about it with her. And we have always told her that we have zero tolerance for drugs and if we ever suspected her of drug use then we would do whatever was necessary to keep her safe - that meant drug testing and rehab if it ever came to that.
I don't mean to jump the gun here and I'm not implying that just because this statement was made that your DD is using drugs and if she is I know that a lot of teens experiment with drugs and turn out just fine. However, a lot of them don't. IMHO most kids don't call eachother names like that unless it is true to some extent. "Many of truths spoken in jest." I would take this seriously and not worry about whether your DD accuses you of not trusting her which is always their first argument. It will be ugly but I would test her and I would also address the drinking. They may have been safe that time but what about the next time??
((((hugs)))) to you and good luck.
<<< It will be ugly but I would test her and I would also address the drinking. They may have been safe that time but what about the next time?? >>>
I just wanted to add that meth, and coke/crack, are usually gone out of the system within 3 days, whereas pot and barbituates can take quite a bit longer.
zz
I agree, the kids call each other horrible nicknames, like "stoner", "hoe", "lesbo", "faggot" all the time! They think it's funny and my DD tells me it's all a joke. I don't know how much to believ that.
It seems with cell phones, internet, IM, etc., our kids are able to keep lots of secrets from their parents.
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