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I really want my dd back.....
| Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:13pm |
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Edited 9/1/2007 2:07 pm ET by kel7col4
Edited 9/1/2007 2:07 pm ET by kel7col4


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Julie I wanted to add, I apologize if I came off as rude in my reply - that wasn't my intention at all. I have no battle with the coach. The tryouts weren't fair. DD was jipped even 4 of the girls that moved up plus the entire varsity squad will tell you that. Not only was dd jipped for a few of the other girls. It's a moot point. DD is fine with it now. She had the expectation, she was letdown - part of life. The only battle I had with the coach was about basing - AGAIN I did not think me pitching a fit about her basing would result in dd flying. DD and I even discussed that and she didn't expect it. If she did not have that super arch in her back (when she lies on her back, almost no part of her back touches the floor, just butt and shoulders - stand up and put your shoulders way way back and stick your stomach as forward as you can - that's dd's back plus some. Now try and lift someone with your back in this position) I would have no problem with her basing. Her back originally started bothering her in 8th grade when she was basing. Her back now is fine (although it hurt her some that day coach had her front and dd told her this - it was ignored, although over summer coach just said dd had to let her know). I don't want to go back to it not being fine again. I don't want to go back to constant doctor appts and physical therapy appts and being out almost $3k over the next year because coach can't respect the fact that dd can not base!
Edited 8/20/2007 5:50 pm ET by kel7col4
Edited 8/20/2007 5:51 pm ET by kel7col4
You might consider making a deal with her on the switch. Get her to agree to switch to another bcp and give it 6 mos (or whatever). See if her moodiness decreases. Tell her in 6 mos time, you and she can both re-visit the situation and go from there. As others said, it is *most likely* the bc that is wacking out her system, but there is no way to know "for sure" until you take her off.
Keep in mind, this is advice from a mom of boys, who has NO idea about today's bcp and side effects. :)
Edited 9/1/2007 2:14 pm ET by kel7col4
No apology necessary! I really just wanted you to know that I meant no harm. I really don't have advise on a teenage girl and BC, not only do I have two teenage boys and a 6 yr old dd, but I have never been on BC pills. I have though had experience with the unfairness of coaches, not only when I was growing up, but with my DS's. I really am on your side, and wanted to just say that eventually it comes to a certain point where you can't beat them, and if it continues to just hurt your daughter, she'ld be better off without the cheering as it sounds like she had other issues to deal with, one being MOST important that her dad is at was. Also, I would like to add, Thank you and your DH for his service to our country!
Julie
I think your DH's going to Iraq and the cheering frustrations may be causing your DD's moodiness. The BCPs might also be contributing. I'd definitely continue with counseling.
Having gone through soccer coach problems with DS17 a couple of years ago, I know what their snide comments and lies can do to the kids emotionally. It's too bad they are allowed to continue coaching.
Hugs to you and DD during these rough times. Don't you have a younger son, too? Is he doing alright without your DH?
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Edited 9/1/2007 2:14 pm ET by kel7col4
and it never ends... dd texted me a couple of hours ago. Somehow she did her basket toss - I swear I can't keep up, last I heard she wasn't flying....
The moodiness definitely intensified with the announcement that dad was going to Iraq, but she has been on a rollercoaster of emotion all summer and the more I think of it since April. It's just steadily gotten worse and worse. I've just been unable to differentiate between it being her relationship with J (which became tumultuous at times starting in April) or the pill (which also began in April). The cheerleading just magnified the feeling of never being good at anything no matter how hard she tries (and bless her heart she did try).
I just don't know what part of this is a normal 15 year old girl? or a normal 15 year old girl with a ton of stress? or a depressed 15 year old girl that truly despises herself? I wrote out a letter to her counselor and spilled everything out that I could think of.
DS is 11 and Bless him he's been our rock through this. Thanks for the hugs - they were greatly needed!!
I suspect that the moodiness is a combination of many things... having dad going to Iraq is enough to set off the moodiness by itself (DD went through a similar set of moods when her brother was deployed last year), and then add to it everything else that's going on with her, and it could be enough to make an adult moody.
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