I really want my dd back.....

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I really want my dd back.....
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:13pm
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 6:53am

I feel for you! I had a hard time with my dd when she was 15 (not that everything is all roses now either but its better). Its funny, my ex husband, her dad, was in Iraq too. She was taking bcp for her acne, but she took a different kind than yasmin and it cleared up beautifully. So it can be done with a different kind, you'll probably just have to insist to her doctor to change it--nothing against the drs but some of them think they know it all. She was very moody that year, didn't want to do any school activities, had her first real boyfriend, one day she wanted to be out skateboarding and playing like a kid and another she didn't want anything to do with any of us and only wanted to be with her friends. She also tried smoking pot once (well that she told me about)but as far as I know has never done it since. She has never had a lot of self esteem to begin with thats always been an issue, but it was worse than ever that year. She is doing better now, she is 17, I still see some of the moodiness but honestly its just been this summer and I think she is bored and ready to start her senior year. She is working part time, spends a lot of time with her boyfriend but her BF has HER first boyfriend and doesn't want to spend time with anyone else so that is also contributing.

So here I am rambling but my point is that I think some of the moodiness and crying is just typical teenage girl...but some of it is probably the bcp. Also I found that keeping her busy that year and making sure that even though there were complaints that she had plenty of family time with us, plenty of activities with her friends, and enough sleep (thats a killer right there!) she slowly got better. Could your dd also be lacking sleep? I know that they stay up late and sleep in, etc but it seems like my dd never sleeps enough and doesn't eat as good as I think she should either--skips breakfast, eats a huge lunch, little bit of dinner but a huge bedtime snack---

I'm sure things will get better, and its good that she's going to counseling. Hopefully that will help her. Is she involved in any other school activities that could boost her confidence? I hope it gets better soon, its hard to see them change like this and feel helpless to do anything about it.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 9:16am
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