I want to rave about my teen

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Registered: 10-23-2003
I want to rave about my teen
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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 5:27am
Do you remember when our mother's would look at us and say "I hope you have a daughter and she's just like you and then you'll know what I've had to put up with!"? I have a 13 year old daughter & she is oneof the greatest people I have ever met. She is charming, intelligent, thoughtfull, helpfull (I have CRPS & life can be pretty tough sometimes). We talk about school & boys & her love of Eminem (I tried to like him so that she would think he was uncool because now even mom listened - backfired but that's ok the guy is actually a well versed writer in his own weird way). I just wanted to sing the praises of my daughter - thanks for giving me a place to do it!
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Tue, 10-28-2003 - 7:03am
Good for you!

Enjoy your daughter and sing her praises.

She sounds like a great kid and especially at 13 when it seems that many teenage girls have suddenly transformed into these unrecognizable rude creatures.

BTW - I have that same thing about the music.

But, I'm not pretending. I do actually like some of it and she knows it.

I try to keep an open mind and rarely-never negative about the artist or the music genre, but focus only on the content and lyrics.

The values inside the kid are what is important.

My daughter knows what I really like and what I don't and she appreciates that I'm keeping an open mind. I think that is a big deal. It bridges the "gap" so to speak.

Anyway, enjoy your daughter and continue rave!

It makes for nice reading!



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-28-2003 - 8:13am
Oh yeah, my mom said that to me all the time. The only trouble is, her wish came true. My ds is as fresh and smart alecky as I was (and still am BTW). I guess I got what was coming to me. But overall, he is a great kid and doesn't give me too much trouble. So glad that your dd is someone you are proud of and can appreciate.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-28-2003 - 8:59am
Yes - I DO remember that. And I did truly luck out (despite my vent below). I have two fantastic dd's! They are both good kids, really. My girls stear clear of drugs and alcohol - sometimes to the point of spending an entire weekend at home, one is very studious and both area helpful, funny and kind (except to each other).

They can be fresh and wrestle with each other too much, but I think that's just normal stuff. For the most part, they are actually very different from what I was like at their ages....but we still have a few years left!! lol

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Tue, 10-28-2003 - 1:18pm
Thanks to everyone for the positive responses! We all do have great kids, some of them just drive us crazy, but we learn from each and everything that they do. Always remember, there isn't much they can do that we haven't allready done & gotten away with!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-28-2003 - 1:52pm
Your DD sounds like a wonderful girl. So much of these years is spent figuring out how to communicate with them, make sure they're on the right track, make sure they don't get into trouble, etc.

My own DD is probably at her rudest with me these days (only w/me - outside the house she's regarded as "a LOVELY girl". They ought to come over sometime, ha-ha!), but I've seen some qualities in her that will be there still when all the teenage angst and moods end in a few years.

She and one of her friends are "in love" with the same boy and from what I can gather, he likes both of them pretty equally. The friend new him first, so DD made a point to encourage the friend to invite him to the Sadie Hawkins. He accepted from the friend and, though miserable, DD said she knew she had done the right thing.

Also, I am impressed by how she never resorts to profanity and namecalling when she's in an argument with anyone even if they're being really bad about this stuff. I also like the way she does things like takes cookies or a nice card to a friend who has been sick or just been having a bad time.

Yes, we should celebrate their fine qualities!