Im not a parent,but need parent advice

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Registered: 05-01-2003
Im not a parent,but need parent advice
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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 1:21am
My husband and I have been married for six months and some things have happened recently and we have decided to move back to my home state, but i dont know how to tell my mom because when ever i talk to her (even jokingly) about moving. Her comment to me is "you would do that to me". How do i tell her and explain to her why without her freaking out? email me at eeyoresweetpeaz@aol.com. thank you.
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Registered: 03-14-2003
Thu, 05-01-2003 - 10:02am
Hi and welcome to the board.

I'm gathering that if you are married, then you are a legal adult. If so, then you have two choices~

1. Don't tell her and just move back, because it is your business not hers and we are free to move anywhere we choose.

2. Tell her point blank, "We're moving back to the state and wanted to let you know." and leave it at that.

I'm 43 years old and if I told my parents we were moving here or there, I wouldn't expect their blessing as I am an adult and have been married nearly 25 years. I would expect my kids also to make their own choices freely where they live without my input.

Now, unless you are moving back and planning to move in with her, then that is a different story. If that's the case, you need to be forthright and honest about the situation and ask if it is possible to move in temporarily and offer to pay rent. Seeing as you didn't really give much information, I'm trying to cover as many possible scenarios that you may be going through right now. ;-)