Inappropriate sexual behavior
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Inappropriate sexual behavior
| Tue, 01-23-2007 - 7:17pm |
PLEASE someone help me!!!! My daughter is 12 and has just recently become depressed for no reason. I've asked her all the questions about why she feels this way and still no reason. My husband and I have taken her to a LCSW and still no reason we can find. However, my daughter finally told me today that her friend touches her inappropriatly and has for a few years. Her friend is a girl! She says it has always made her upset but her friend always cries and begs her to "make-out".
My question is....is this normal at 12? I could see if it only happened once and maybe when they were younger but 12?

I dont think it matters about the age and sex of the person involved, no one has the right to touch your dd in a way that she does not want
Can she just stop being friends with this girl? If this was indeed a one or even two time attempt on the friends part, it might be different, but if it's ongoing, there's no reason for your dd to go near this girl
The counselor might have good advice now that she knows what the problem(or part of the problem)is. And dd needs to keep seeing the counselor or someone else if this one doesnt click
I don't want to be an alarmist but I'd tell the parents of the other girl what's going on. Chances are that if she's doing something innapropriate that she is or has been sexually abused. Many times a child will act out on an other child what has happened to them.
Obviously councelling for your daughter would be a good idea. And I would call Social Services about the other girl too. You could help someone in need.
A very similar thing happened to a friend of mine when she was 4. Her friend kept trying to touch her between her legs. My friend's dad happened to be a child shrink and had always told her to tell him about stuff like that. She (at 4!)insisted that her dad try and help her friend. She was right. She was being abused at home.
Just a thought. Good luck.
-S
This is probably far more common than you think.