incentive for my idle child
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|Fri, 06-20-2003 - 9:35am|
Idle meaning she'll go to the mall or the pool once or twice a week or I'll take her to the shore a couple of times over the summer or we'll go on a family vacation but the rest of the time she is reading or watching tv or listening to music which is actually the majority of her day and week.
I am so bothered by this that I told her that I would get her a cellphone for her birthday if she got herself involved in something.
She didn't go for the initial idea.
I don't want her involved in a 40 hour work week, I only want her to do something constructive a few hours a week over a couple of days per week for maybe half the summer or so. Not even every week.
I'm ready to change her incentives and tell her the phone won't even be a birthday gift but that she'll get it if she finishes 4-6 weeks of constructive stuff.
Now, since my dh and I both work full time, she stays at my mothers.
She'd rather stay home alone. I'm ready to also tell her she can stay home alone on the days that she is volunteering at something as another added incentive.
I am going to call the local kennels and the stables and see if they need volunteers a few hours a week.
I didn't say anything yet to her though. I'm anticipating a confrontation.
How can I incent her to get her butt into gear? Am I going overboard?
Any advice? I can't stand that she is idle like this.