I have never seen this done...
Ramona Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!
No, I would never do that, and we have hosted many parties for my girls, and they have attended many others.
Thank you, ladies. You're right. And the more I think
This is very commonly done in our community, and I find it very helpful. The high school my DD attends serves two towns with small populations but large geographic areas. Since the parents are still doing the driving at this age (can't get license til 16.5 at the earliest), they really appreciate it when they can carpool, especially if there's an 11 p.m pick up.
Most lists read: "For carpooling purposes..." at the top, with the names of the invited guests following. And of course, this cuts down on hurt feelings. Even at this age, when kids know that realistically, they can't have all their friends and acquaintances
Chiming in way late here but I wouldn't even attempt to host a party that big for a 16 year old. I stopped planning birthday parties for my boys at around age 12. Kids that age typically have no idea what they're going to do for the evening more than 30 minutes prior to whatever the event is. At least that's been my experience with boys. But if you do want to do the invitation/etc. I certainly wouldn't include a list of who was invited - I don't think I've ever seen a list of attendees for any event I've been invited to in my almost 52 years. Seems kind of odd to me but as I said I don't have girls....
One difference between girls and boys that I've noticed.... boys don't make plans for "the big event" for days in advance.
When my DD turned 16 we brought some kids to a laser tag place for a party w/ pizza after--not that many due to the price and we fit in 2 cars.