Input on Punishment/consequence for DD

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Input on Punishment/consequence for DD
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Mon, 01-23-2006 - 2:55pm

DD had a creative writing assignment first draft due today for her advanced English class. This was IMO a very simple thing, and dd is nothing if not creative. Her strength is in writing. Of course she knew about it in advance, and do did I. The first part of her assignment was to turn in the plot and idea, which she did. But dd had not looked carefully at the particulars, and the draft had to be 6-8 pages in length. To make a long story short, dd was up until 11:30 a.m. trying to finish story she had told me she was working on all weekend and was going to be "no problem". It was only 4 pages long when typed. I'm pretty upset with her, as I've given her a chance to show she's trustworthy. IMO she failed; she did the assignment, but barely. She had many opportunies all weekend, and squandered all of her time (sound familiar?) despite constant reminders on my part. Of course, the natural consequence will be that it will affect her (already bad) grade. Dh and I think, however, that we need to come up with another consequence on our end. The t.v. was taken out of her room when her report card came out, and has not made its way back in. She has a cell phone. Should I ground her this weekend, or take the cell phone away? Any other ideas? She doesn't see friends during the week, but does watch t.v. in the family room.

To those of you who don't know dd's background, she has been quite troubled this past year. She was cutting, but according to her therapist is no longer and hasn't for some time (unless she's lying to her too, although I also have seen no evidence). However, therapist suspects learning disabilities, and depression. We are having her tested. I'm not saying she doesn't have them, but there is just an incredible lack of motivation on her part, which probably is not unlike alot of 14 yo girls. Help?

Marie

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Registered: 06-15-2004
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 4:34pm
Yep, I got the EY package! My buddies on the teens board have been buggging me to get it. Thats me dancing. My mom didn't want me to use pictures, but let me use that one because its just the back of my head, lol.


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Registered: 06-15-2004
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 4:44pm

Julie, I bet they would have so much fun taking dance lessons! A dance instructor comes to my friend's house to teach us all types of ballroom dance: Tango, swing, Latin, and others. Tango is our favorite. Its so much fun. I didn't want to do it at first because i didn't think i'd like it, but one of the guys needed a partner so i agreed. There's 8 or 9 couples that come to class. Its also fun to go to events at night and stuff with a bunch of couples dancing.

You're so right about the school dances. At winter formal we were showing off our skills. It was fun to be able to dance at the school dance and not get dragged into the whole dirty dancing stuff, lol.



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