Input on sleepovers for 16 year old gay son
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|Fri, 04-01-2011 - 12:53pm|
I'm a single mom. A 13 year old daughter and a 16 year old son. Dad isn't in the picture at this time at all. My son is gay. He came out about 2 years ago. He was in a relationship for a year but they broke up right after Christmas. He's dated a couple of guys, but nothing serious. He just started dating a boy a couple days ago. He seems very polite and nice. We had him over for dinner and he engaged me in conversation when I drove him home -- and it didn't feel like Eddie Haskal at all! :) He seemed genuine.
Our house has always been full of kids. When we owned our home, we would easily have 9 kids stuffed in a tent in the backyard. With a boy and girl, we'd have co-ed sleepovers often when they were younger. There was a neighbor girl my son's age that practically lived with us until she was 10 and moved away. She has come to visit us and stayed overnight a couple times in the past year.
Obviously, now that they're teens, the co-ed sleep over thing takes on different meaning. So my daughter doesn't have boys sleep over anymore, etc. But my daughter has a girl sleep over and my son is in the house, and vice versa.
I'm looking to see how other parents of gay teens handle sleep overs. If my son was straight, I don't think I'd let his girlfriend sleep over. So logically he shouldn't be able to have a boyfriend sleep over, right? Only it feels weird because guys have friends sleep over, so to say my son can only have girls sleep over ... well, you can see that's a bit strange.
Also, being gay doesn't mean you'll want to have sex with every single male you interact with. You can have guys that are "just friends." So how do I say one can stay over cuz he's straight or just a friend, and one can't because there's a love interest? And how do I know he won't say a love interest is just a friend to get around that?
So are sleep overs done now for our family? How do other moms handle this situation?