I'll get the recipe from my aunt and send it to you...it's yummy--it's jello, pretzels, whipped cream , fruit...and it sounds crazy bu it's really good and takes forever to make but worth it..
Yes, it would be rude to bring along a dinner when invited to a dinner. LOL.
If you feel that strongly about bringing the ham, call and ask your aunt. She may be fine with it.
Otherwise, if told to not bring anything, the best option is to bring a gift for the host/hostess, such as a plant, flowers, wine, notecards, holiday themed something.
While your intentions are good, bringing a main dish when they have asked you not to bring anything, would be rude.
I would not just bring a ham etc...
Yes, it would be rude to bring along a dinner when invited to a dinner. LOL.
If you feel that strongly about bringing the ham, call and ask your aunt. She may be fine with it.
Otherwise, if told to not bring anything, the best option is to bring a gift for the host/hostess, such as a plant, flowers, wine, notecards, holiday themed something.
You are a guest.