You're right--nagging does NOT help. BUT that doesn't mean you ignore him either. Be the pill police. Watch him swallow those suckers. Remove distractions and time wasters. My kids did not have TV's or computers in their rooms, and we never had video games or gaming systems in the house. Tell him he does NOT watch tv, or go out till he shows you his finished homework. If he's junior and expecting to drive, tell him he needs B's and a job in order to use the car. Tell him if his grades drop, the job will be the FIRST thing to go, and therefore so will his pocket money, since you are no longer supplying THAT, either. But don't beat him over the head. If he's on meds, he 'll be able to remember what you are saying. Just state your terms, and walk away. Remember, you are not trying to develop a brain surgeon, you just want him to be self supporting. So WHAT if <> He STILL got the B!
And this is the LAST of the TOP PRINCIPLES of dealing with an ADHD/emotionally disordered teen...23. This is not a contest with your child. The winner is not the one with more points. The winner is the one whose child still loves them when they graduate from high school.
Good luck! I have a son similar to yours, however mine graduated in May, but he wasn't able to handle a traditional high school setting and we had to find him an alternative where he could work at his own pace, but I remind myself that he still graduated. Mind you, even though he could
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