Just hit me about DD leaving home
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| Fri, 05-25-2007 - 10:53am |
Last night I had my first sad feelings about DD going away to college (even though I want her to go at the same time and think it's very exciting). I guess it's because today is her last actual day of school. She doesn't have to take exams cause she has all A's and B's, a privilege only for seniors. I was looking in a store last night at sheets and thinking about what she should take to school and I just got sad.
I am also anxious since this is our first one going away and it just seems like every few days she is getting a letter about something that has to be done for college. A big envelope from financial aid about federal loans came which I will have to read. It's funny how those things are addressed to the student. Yes, I know she is going to have to sign for the loan, but I'm also sure she has no idea what it's about. There's just so much stuff to think about--making sure she has had all the required shots, getting verification that she will still be on the health ins., figuring out what she will need. It's all stressing me out. Then DH keeps asking me if she has a summer job yet (no) and talking about her switching rooms w/ her younger brother, who got stuck w/ the small room. I'll just have to tell DH I need more time to deal w/ that. It will be hard enough to pack up all her stuff w/o having to change her room in the summer time too. :(

You are not alone. Last night was Jennifer's last dance concert with her dance troupe and it was a little emotional. My eyes got a little teary when they did the tribute to the seniors and pictures from a baby to now were on a projector and she danced across the stage. I know that I will be the same when she does her last performance with her ballet company, her last choir concert, and even prom.
She is my first one leaving too and she is going roughly 3,000 miles away. I have to keep reminding myself that she is going to a great school and it has been her dream since she was a little girl. She has done everything already and now has scouted out stores to by the things she needs. It is a bitter-sweet experience and I am just so proud of her.
Julia
I have two IRL friends going through the same thing - it's a big transition. One friend's son is an only child, she's a stay-at-home mom, and her marriage is not very solid - she's going through a very tough time thinking about her son leaving home.
So, be gentle to yourself, and recognize that even a fun, happy time can be stressful and sometimes sad. But ultimately a very happy time for your DD!
Sue
I'm right there with you both. DS18 will go 526 miles (not that I've counted them, lol) to college at UArk this fall. He's our oldest, and only son, so this is uncharted territory. It is all very exciting, but nervewracking and a bit heartwrenching, too. I am really proud of him and his accomplishments throughout high school (graduating with highest honors, captain of two varsity sports teams and a list of other achievements) and I am sure he will continue to make us very proud in college, but it is really tough to let go.
I'll probably drive him crazy this summer wanting to spend "quality time" with him before he leaves in August! :)
Lori
Just think of all the new memories and experiences you will gain. Three of my children are graduating this June and it's a little heartbreaking. I shed a few tears the other day as I looked at their baby pictures for a slide show. I am a little nervous because they are the first ones to leave and I only have one more after them.
Thankfully though, all of them are staying in California with Reagan going to UC Santa Cruz, Shea going to UC Santa Barbara, and Bradford going to Stanford. I am proud of all of them and know that they will do well at college. I just hope that Reagan doesn't come home with too many tattoos.
Stephanie