This is Kind of Strange

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This is Kind of Strange
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:12pm

This past Friday night, my son almost hit a van when he

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:30pm

My guess is she knew she was wrong - she was being mother hen, giving her piece of mind to your ds in the heat of the moment, but didn't think straight that her actions were also dangerous, til later when she settled down. So she never said a word to you, out of embarrassment, realizing she was wrong, and that what your ds did in apologizing was right. Obviously it would've been nice for her to tell you all that, but that's tough for some...

Sue

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:36pm

That's exactly what I think!

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:43pm

I really think you should just let this go. In the big picture, it really isn't such a big deal. Whether she was wrong or right, the end result is that it will have taught your son to be a bit more careful and remember that all over town there are other parents eyes...some who may report to his parents just what went down! LoL -

At this time of year, there are many newly licensed teen drivers. I know at times I've been tempted to chase one down and give him/her a peice of my mind about their careless driving, but I don't have time. haha.

I recall an incident that occurred just after dd19 was born (almost 20 years ago!!). I had made a right onto a hilly road after looking both ways twice. The road was clear, but as soon as I turned, a carful of young boys came screaming up behind me - they had to be doing at least 45 in a 25 MPH zone and screeched on the brakes. I stopped my car, kind of sideways, and got out and yelled at them to be more careful and obey the speed zones!! I was furious!! I had my newborn baby in the car and these kids almost smashed into me bad. My sil was in the car with me that day and when I got back in she was giggling...."I don't think I've ever seen you raise your voice. Wow, motherhood suits you!" and off we went. I don't know who those boys were, but hopefully they learned something that day and I don't think I was over the top.

Cut the woman some slack. You don't know what her morning was like or what kind of day she was having and maybe your son really startled her and she really thought that an accident could have occurred.

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:45pm
Yeah, she was a little over the top, but when you said "new baby", I thought, weeeeell, her emotions may be running a little higher than normal. :) Doesn't make it right, just a little more understandable. You know how it is, when we get really, really scared for our "babies", calm, rational behavior sometimes flies out the window. Case in point: ds16 got his driver's license yesterday. Long story short, he didn't get home til really late and I had driven nearly 100 miles looking for him. I was on my way to call hospitals because I *knew* he wouldn't be that late unless something terrible had happened. I was literally in tears and sick to my stomach. When he got home and was FINE, I nearly tore his head off. It was ugly. But I had been scared beyond belief. I'm pretty sure I scared the snot outta ds16 too. :) The up side is now he knows how deadly serious I am about letting me know where he is and to not be late. Same thing for your ds. I'm sure he was scared to death, but maybe he will be much more aware of his surroundings, from now on.
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:56pm
One big problem for her is that she didn't know who she was stopping.
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:00pm

I am absolutely going to let this go, didn't mean to imply that I was not.

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:01pm

Sue,


Exactly my point!


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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:20pm

Haha! Since you put it out here, lol...

I've followed a few in my life and confronted them.

I've been known to run up breathless and ask where the fire is, cause apparently if they're driving like they were, there must be an emergency.

I've always gotten an apology. And I've had a long talk with one young man, explaining how nice his truck was, and how important his life was... and what was the point of losing both. He was practically falling over me before I left.

I've never overreacted (imo, haha) over someone just making a mistake and cutting me off, etc. Only for very aggressive driving... heck, I've been flipped off 3 times in the past year for simply driving the speed limit. I followed one young girl to her parents' house and had a very interesting discussion with them. Unfortunately, her mother recently died when someone crossed the center line...

The last man I followed... I may not have made a difference, but I scared that old man and believe he didn't at least go down the road in the next hour and almost wreck someone, simply because he was mad someone was driving under the speed limit. (it was ice in Texas, and he purposefully tried to "give me a lesson")

Oh well, maybe I'm a worst nightmare for those kind of people. Or maybe their parents just didn't know how they were driving.

My neighbor recently followed my son home to tell me how he was driving. And I was grateful.

zz --> who once began a company for parents of teens.. putting a bumper sticker for others to report their bad driving.