Lazy and Lying 15 year old

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Registered: 11-01-2006
Lazy and Lying 15 year old
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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 7:11am

Can someone explain to me why our 15 year old son has been incredibly lazy lately?

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 7:50am

It sounds pretty much like a normal 15 y/o phase that some kids go through at that age... not that it makes it ok, but you did ask "why?" Trying to spread their wings, pretty ineffectively I'd add, and figure life out on their own.

As for the lieing about making his lunch - don't set him up to lie. Don't ask him if he did it, just check to see if it's done.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2006
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 8:31am

Thanks for your response.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 7:11pm

I agree w/ backing off--you don't want to have a major battle every day about something trivial like lunch.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Wed, 04-13-2011 - 5:46pm

If lunch is all he's lying about then yes, perhaps you should back off but keep your eyes open. Is he still eating normally as far as breakfast and dinner? It does seem kind of odd that he goes through the trouble of rustling the bags, opening the cupboards, etc. I know I'm hyper-sensitive about this but if he's starting to get weird about food or meals just keep an eye on things. I have a son that struggled for years with an eating disorder so any weird food things send up my radar!

Pam
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Registered: 11-01-2006
Wed, 04-13-2011 - 6:51pm

We had a kind of falling out yesterday (due to a school-related subject) and this morning he made his lunch without being asked.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Wed, 04-13-2011 - 7:04pm

A teen who seems to "suddenly" become lazy or unmotivated, is, more than likely, feeling overwhelmed.