A little nervous about DD's proposed summer plans

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Registered: 05-27-1998
A little nervous about DD's proposed summer plans
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Wed, 01-18-2012 - 11:09am

I think I just need to talk this through so I'm okay with it. Last summer, our pastor retired and moved back to Ghana, where he is from. He had been working with my daughter for a year, both because of her role as keyboard player in the worship band, and because she was dealing with depression.

Right before he left, he invited my DD to stay with him and his wife at their compound in Ghana. They run a small guesthouse for missionary doctors and others who work at the clinic across the road. He thought it would be good for Abigail to gain some perspective by seeing a different way of life and said that she could work by answering phones or assisting his wife in the garden. DD thought this was a good idea, but wasn't ready to make a commitment.

She has been healthy and doing really well for about 7

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Of course there are no guarantees that nothing will happen to her even if she stays home--objectively we all know that, but I would really be hesitant to send a teenager to Ghana--I don't think it's the safest country and I know a lot of the people who run scams are there (as well as Nigeria).

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Registered: 05-13-1998

It's a great opportunity but yeah, I'd be freaked out too! How long would she go for?

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Registered: 05-27-1998

We don't have a set timetable yet, but I think it would be for a month. Once she's there, I won't worry as much because she'll just stay put. It's really the traveling that concerns me because the roads are bad there and the hospital care is very poor, as you'd expect in a developing nation.

Politically, it's a lot safer than it once was. Our pastor was a professor of botany at a university there and had to flee when there was a coup and the new gov't froze his assets. That's how he ended up in the US. The stability there now is what allowed him to go back after 30 years in the US. He's well connected (part of the intellectual elite),and has a lot of friends who are doctors and lawyers,

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Registered: 11-01-2001

I think if it was my daughter, I'd let her know that after her freshman year of college or once she is 19 and working/in some sort of school, that you would be willing to help her with the travel costs.

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Registered: 10-16-1999

I forget how old your daughter is, but I'm answering based on her being 17 or so.

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Registered: 05-27-1998

Our pastor said that he would meet her at the airport. Yes, she will have just turned 17 at the time. Even though she is very good with languages and foreign cities, I'm still a bit nervous about the flights there and back. I know the airports in developing countries have really crappy security! And she is also a noticeably good-looking girl, which means she won't blend in very easy anywhere. My maternal nightmares are of rape and the slave trade....

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Registered: 05-27-1998

I don't think she is looking at this as a "mission trip" but I will gently suggest that she explore other ways of serving here because I agree with you. However,

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Registered: 12-03-1999

Besides all the good points made so far, I'd be concerned about her health.

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Registered: 11-01-2001

I completely understand.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Diseases that are unknown in the us & other deveeloped countries is definitely a concern. A year and a half ago my DD's bff went on a mission trip with her grandmother to an African country. Don't remember now which one, but I know they lived in huts with no electricity or running water. A couple of weeks after coming back to the US Sarah became violently ill with a very high fever. I think the girls said she had typhoid... in any case, it was something you never hear of. In the midwest.

I know the military is really concerned with unknown diseased, my guys have talked about seeing things we have never heard of when they were in the remote areas of Iraq or Afghanistan. And then there is always the potential for biological weapons... makes me shudder.

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