Living in a modest home - embarassed DD
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| Wed, 12-28-2005 - 1:39pm |
My DD is 13. She goes to a private school and has many nice friends. We have lived in our modest home (2200 sq ft) for 23 years and are very happy there. DD has many friends who have much larger homes (4000 sq ft plus). Our home is very modern, very clean and she is an only child so she has her own room, office, and family in which to entertain her friends. She recently, has not wanted to invite people over because she feels they judge how "rich" we are by the size of the house we have. She knows they are wrong and is very happy living in her home, but can not get past this. I do not know what to say to her. I have said that our house is paid for, I work part time to be home with her etc. She said it doesn't matter, the kids don't care about stuff like that. I know it goes along with the "material generation", which I try so hard to not be a part of. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle this? I know it sounds ridiculous as I am writing it, but it has become a problem for my daughter and I am at a loss for words.
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Thank you all so much for your input. It was sooo helpful. I know that it was difficult for my daughter to tell me this because she didn't want to hurt our feelings. Which I am ashamed to admit, it did a little. What has come up last night is they are all looking for a place to have a New Year's Day get together. I told my DD that our home is always open to her friends and I would love to have them over if she would like. I will let you know the outcome!
I am looking into volunteering for her and I. I think that is a wonderful way to help and teach. We do sponsor a child in Zambia, of which my daughter participates with her allowance, but it is not something she can see first hand which I think will be helpful.
I thank you again for all your encouraging and enlightening words.
tcmom92
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