Love the new BF
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| Fri, 12-21-2007 - 7:00pm |
I don't know if anyone here will remember, but my DD, who just turned 16, had a very intense first boyfriend last year. They went out for about 5 months, when he suddenly dumped her and she had a really hard time moving on. I always had an icky feeling about the whole thing. The relationship was too intense--she was sure he was "the one", she let all of her other friendships slide, etc. He was always playing the victim--saying that we hated him and that there was something wrong with DH and me, blah, blah, blah. His parents were never available to drive them anywhere. We had to pick him up and drop him off every time they went anywhere. We didn't allow DD to go to his house because we didn't believe his parents were very involved, or that they would supervise. (The one time we did allow it, she ended up watching a movie in his bedroom w/ another boy and girl!)
Well, she has a new BF now and it is so NORMAL!!! They have gone out a few times, he was over here once, but usually they go out w/ a big group of friends. He invited her over this evening, and I never really had any qualms about it at all. I get a really good "vibe" from his parents. They always drive when the two of them go out because he wants to be the one to pick up the girl. (How cute!!) They each are intent on keeping their separate friends. He doesn't hang all over her, at least not right in front of us. He doesn't make demands on her like the other BF. I just love this kid! This is what I thought the first BF would be like. Now I know I wasn't crazy after all!

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Glad to hear you like this bf!
Enjoy it!!
That is wonderful, I'm hoping for the day DS brings home a girl I actually respect.
I think the fact that his parents are on the same page as you is so very important, esp. as they are teenagers. Good luck that they continue on a safe and healthy track.
Lisa
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