lying?

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Registered: 08-14-2007
lying?
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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 10:01am
What do you do about lying? DS is almost 15, and has always lied about little things. He's transparent so he isn't really fooling us, but we have never really called him on the carpet. He is honest important things, but can't seem to be straight with us on little issues. The most recent (and typical) is where his lunch money went. I usually send him with lunch, but put some money in the school account for the occasional day when he wants to buy. He used his own money and spent over twice what we gave him.
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In reply to: dvn11
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 11:28am

Hi!

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Registered: 10-16-1999
In reply to: dvn11
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 1:30pm

I don't know what to do about the lying about the little things... but as far as what he's eating at school, is there a reason that could motivate him to eat healthier?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: dvn11
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 1:58pm

Since you've never really called him on the little lies in the past, now may be a good time to have a heart-to-heart about it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: dvn11
Fri, 10-05-2007 - 3:24pm

I would roll my eyes and chuckle-"10 bucks on milk? Come on-was it candy or chips?"

Keep it light-because yes, it is human nature to not tell the truth when one knows there will be disapproval

If you did indeed hear it was chips, I personally would compromise and say "how about chips 2/wk; I'll add that amount to your account"

Maybe it isn't about stopping the little lies but listening to what is being said between the lines? This is assuming he is truthful most of the time and on the big stuff.