Lying-I think

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Lying-I think
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Thu, 05-10-2007 - 11:14am

Ok, we're back on the downside of the rollercoaster.
DS 13 has gotten back into the rude, snotty, disrepectful responses, which is bad enough.
But I feel like he's started to fib about things. Just little things, but honesty is a BIG thing for me and I don't like feeling distrustful.

This AM he was told to get $$ for lunch, because he has left his lunchbox at school for 3 days and that's our rule. I asked several times before leaving home and in the car. He insisted loudly that he had gotten money. Too loudly. I told him to show me the $$. He called me weird, bitched, and dug in his pocket. No money. Then he pretended he had lost it and was angry that I was calling him a liar (which I never actually said.) I do know his teacher has told me he frequently hits other kids up for food, when he was supposed to have bought his lunch. And he is a tightwad. So what was I supposed to think?

As for the lost lunchbox, well, first it was forgotten, then it was lost, then the story changed to "so and so took it". I told him he would have to BUY a new lunchbox himself regardless (he's lost several in the past 2 years), which created another drama but that's a different post. The migration of the story seemed fishy.

He also "forgot" to show me his progress report which he usually shoves in my hand. I didn't know the kids had them untill another parent mentioned it. He had a huge drop in one class grade because of 2 missed homework assignments. He says he did the first one and turned it in, but his teacher's assistant "lost" his workbook. I'm wondering why he didn't ask for it and raise an alarm when the second assignment was due. Suspicious. Especially since last year he insisted someone had stolen another assignment... which later turned up in the car trunk.

And, of course, there was the recent myspace site that he swears someone else made (which I mostly believe.) But even if he didn't, he knew about it and kept it from me when he knows my feelings on myspace.

And the situation when the neighbors paid him early and 3 times what was agreed on for a house-sitting job. All of which he told everyone but ME (of course, I later found out.)

These are just a couple of numerous things lately that aren't earth-stopping, but just strengthen the tickle in my feelings of mistrust in him. I do think he's trying out a new direction that isn't great, but I can't be positive so I'm not sure what to do. Things just don't feel right.

And no... I'm not normally so weird.

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Registered: 04-29-2003
In reply to: karenlk10
Sat, 05-12-2007 - 4:43pm

ROTFLOL, This just made my day. that is exactly right, "thinking like they think" I know it isn't funny, or wasn't to you at the time. It just makes me feel so much better to see and hear others in the same boat. It also makes are teens seem less awful :) I loved this though, that is one smart kid :) LOL Thanks for sharing this one!

Julie

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