lying to parents about boyfriend

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Registered: 11-13-2007
lying to parents about boyfriend
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Tue, 11-13-2007 - 12:48pm

My 13 yr old daughter seemed to change the day she turned 13 (just one month ago). She has met a group of boys,through her best friend, and one has become

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 1:06pm

I can completely understand your concern about your DD because I went through some drama with my DD's first boyfriend last year. My DD was older than yours, though (14 or 15 at the time). But she also lied to me at least once that I know of regarding that boyfriend. I think that many on this board will agree that when you forbid a certain relationship, it only makes it that much more attractive to your teen. It is likely that your DD has lied to you because she knew you would "freak out" (to use their words!) if you found out she had a boyfriend, and in a way, you have confirmed those fears. I kind of did the same thing the first time around. I know your DD is young, but my DS is also 13 and he has friends who already have boyfriends or girlfriends. I think all you can do is set some ground rules--no one-on-one dating, no visiting each other's houses without a parent home, etc.

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Registered: 12-24-2006
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 3:27pm

I don't have a girl, and my DS-18 never had a girlfriend until recently... but I wanted to comment on one thing:


<< (she has admitted that he has smoked pot and been drunk in the past only after I found his text message to her bragging about it). This boy has told her he doesn't do these things anymore because she doesn't like him to. oooohhhhhhhhh pleasseeeeeeee. >>


We've always kept the computer in the common living area.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 6:04pm

IMO, catsmack and ejteach gave you some pretty sound advice, especially about not freaking about the b/f.

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 9:49pm

I certainly understand your concerns.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 10:54am
I think it's pretty common that kids feel like they have to have a BF or GF when they are really too young to date.
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Registered: 07-28-2007
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 11:14pm
Well, lyied to moms like company.
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Registered: 11-13-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 8:48am

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