Lying Teen

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2003
Lying Teen
11
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 4:11pm

Out of my league here. My daughter is 13 1/2 and I just can't get her to stop lying. Its been all about phoneuse but I don't want a pattern to start. Littl background she is daddy's girl and I'm the discpline parent. She has a boyfreind who is alos 13 he used to go to her school and then he moved so he nows go to another school. they were talking on the phone constatly and I let her within limits, I don't think she needs to be so wrapped up in this boy. She has no cell phone and only uses the home phone. I took her phone a way for week because she did not follow the rules eg, was on the phone when she was not supposed. This started in Late Novemeber. I took the phone away for a week on a Friday and that Sunday when me an my husband were doing gardening I came in and she was on the phone, she had not heard me come in. I was so mad I took the phone away for a month. Well my husband works in a hospital and he gets up at 4;30 in the morning and he heard her on the phone, she had taken his cell phone out of his car and was on the phone. Of course I was livid. We are also in the process of planning her quincenera which is going to be very expensive and it will be a big sacfrice money wise but it something thats important to us in our family, well after that last phone incident, I took away the computer and her new ipod for a week, the phone for a month again and told her taht her quincenera was on hold until we decided if we shoudl do it based on her behavior. Everything was going good for the the last two weeks, if we forgot our cell phones in the living room she would even make a point of bringing them into our room before we came to bed no other phones in the hosue right now. Well my husband just called from work, she used his cell phone last night. He had left in the car and she took it out.

I'm at my wits end. This is the middle of January and this started in Novemeber.

She is basically a good girls she gets good grades, helps out at home, file sin my office at work two days out of the week. SHe does not go out with freinds as she lives far from school. So she is with us basically 24/7 other than school, but I just don't understand what the big deal on this boy is she has seen him only twice in the last 6 months. ANy advise would be helpful. Sorry this was so long but it helped just to vent.


Rainey



proud owner of:

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2005
In reply to: rainey72
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 11:53pm
I guess it serves several purposes for us. I have a part-time home-based business that uses our home phone number so I like to be able to make/receive calls during the evening hours, too. It also encourages DD to be a part of our evening activities rather than seclude herself on the phone for hours. She has the 2+ hours between getting home from school and us getting home from work where she is on the phone quite a lot. Mostly we just want to encourage her to be considerate and not monopolize the phone for hours, but we also want her to be with us for some of the evening time. It's hard to stay in touch with them at this age and know what's happening in their world. The few hours we have in the evening is our best chance to be part of her world (at least for me).

Pages