Make dd do a sport/stay at new school?

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Registered: 07-28-2007
Make dd do a sport/stay at new school?
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Fri, 09-14-2007 - 1:35am

My dd who is 13 is a very responsible, independent kid who is very wise beyond her years in handling situations and making decisions.

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 7:51am
Your daughter has said that she doesn't want to talk about changing schools anymore and will make the best of the current situation. I wouldn't bring it up to her again! Let her settle in. Every time you give her the option of transferring back, it makes the adjustment harder for her. Also, since she is having to make all of these changes now, I'd back off on forcing her into a sport or anything else for now. If she says she wants to wait until spring, and she has shown such good judgment until now, I'd take her at her word. She doesn't sound like the kind of kid who will keep herself isolated for very long. Maybe she needs a breather, or at least some time to stand back and assess her new situation.
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Registered: 07-28-2007
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 9:14am

thanks so much for your clearheaded, intelligent response.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 11:56am

Maybe this isn't the ideal situation for your younger DD, but as you said she will adjust and it's not the end of the world.

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 1:15pm

You know your DD better than any of us do. All things being equal, of course it would be best for her to get involved in a sport or some other extracurricular activity. It's up to you whether now is the time to get tough and tell her she has to choose something. Another alternative would be to tell her that it's ok to sit it out for now, but that she's going to need to find something--sports or other activity--to do by the spring.