Mean Girl - Rant
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| Fri, 01-18-2008 - 11:01pm |
I don't know how I'm going to emotionally survive the teenage years. So far, most of the drama has surrounded my DD. Now, it has engulfed my almost 14 y.o. DS.
My DS is not a kid who make friends easily, at least not until recently. This past fall, he got into a group of friends from another school (they're in an extracurricular activity together). They are a nice group of kids, and they usually get together every week or so, taking turns at different kids' houses. It's a mixed group of about 5 or 6 girls and boys.
Well, I recently allowed my son to get a Facebook account to keep up w/ these friends & others. Somehow, he got himself mixed up in an argument w/ one of my DD's friends (who he also knows). It started out as something innocent, but my son didn't word things exactly right in their "Inbox" exchange. This girl, who is a HS freshman, took everything he said and twisted it into a personal attack on her. The more he kept trying to explain himself, the more she twisted things. I realized what was happening, and told him to stop the back and forth, and explained to him how easy it is to get bogged down in an online fight with someone via email, IMing, etc.
So this girl goes and sends a copy of the exchange to my son's other friends. There was nothing "wrong" with it, it's just the spin she puts on it.....but she has already gotten one or two of these friends mad at him, and he is afraid that she is going to go and purposely ruin his friendship with this group of friends. She isn't even one of this little group. I feel physically sick just thinking about it.
I'm so worried that he's going to lose these friends. Yes, I know, they can't be great "friends" if they'd let this stupid situation ruin their friendship. But they are 12 and 13 y.o. kids! None of them has the best judgment in the world. And I'm even more upset that anyone would be mean enough to do something like this on purpose. Yeah, maybe he isn't as smooth as he could be, but he has a good heart and he doesn't deserve this! What's worse is I'm afraid that if my DD stands up for her brother w/ this girl, she'll lose her friends too!
Why didn't anyone tell us parenting would involve this??
ej

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Your poor little fellow. It's hard at 12/13 to deal with this crap.
I vote for ignoring her on Facebook. Better still, don't go to Facebook for a week or two till all this dies down. I would also suggest that your DD ignore her as well. He was big enough to apologize for not actually doing anything wrong. Now it is her turn to reciprocate and apologize.
He can mentioned to his friends that he is sorry she felt slighted at not being included. he doesn't need to apologized that he didn't invite her.
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