Moms of girls-get involved in catfights?

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Registered: 04-28-2003
Moms of girls-get involved in catfights?
Tue, 05-13-2003 - 1:30pm
Hi ladies, I'm fairly new here. I have 2 dd's; ages 16 & 14. I've found staying out of my 16 yo's cat fights with her g/f's very difficult, but it has worked for us. Girls are so mean and can be so cruel, but then they forgive each other and life goes on. I'm there to pick up the pieces, sympathize, and suggest that maybe that particular friend isn't such a good friend afterall; dispense words of advice and experience.

Unfortunately, things are not going so well with my 14 yo. Mothers ARE getting involved, and bad things are being said, and it really is difficult for us adults to forgive & forget.

Does anyone have any comments about this?


dd 16 yo

dd 14 yo

ds 13 months old

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-14-2003 - 2:19am
Hi, and welcome.

My policy is the same as yours. I don't get involved, but try to dispense helpful advice when necessary. I would get involved if my DD were physically endangered in some way, or, if there was some real serious psychological stuff going on like really vicious, reputation-destroying rumors being spread, etc.

I think these moms that involve themselves in petty, everyday, teenager catfights are really making themselves look like teens. There are a few of them at my DD's MS. They have poked their noses in ever since their kids were in the grammar school and everyone - other parents, kids and school staff - knows that they do this and thus they have a reputation for always thinking their kid is goody two shoes and other kids are the devil in pants.

Just so you don't feel alone, my DD (14 in 3 weeks) is also putting up with a lot of stuff like this right now. :-) Best of luck.