Mood swings daughter
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|Sun, 07-18-2010 - 9:52pm|
She is 14 yrs old. She is generally quite moral and good. She has excellent grades and so on. BUT, a few days ago (in another post) she went on an emotional rant about wanting to go to Yale. The next day, she got her period and it was very heavy and she started to behave better so I thought all was fine. But then today, again, back to acting horrible.
For starters, she likes to dominate my time. So she will ask me to come to her room. And even if I am in there for hours, she gets all angry whenever someone else walks in, as in, mostly her 6 yr old brother. She will start screaming at him. Then earlier, she was off watching a movie and I went in to her room and sat and was on my computer. She walks in and insists I leave "get out of my room! I am sick of you always being in here" oohhhh kay! This is the girl who wants me in there all the time. I told her that her tone of voice and her attitude is unacceptable and that she is not to speak to me that way. I should add here, we have a pretty open door type house here, so she is always in my room and has no issue with walking in to her brothers' rooms without asking. This is something that has always been a nonissue until recent times. She has the biggest bedroom in the house, yet does not have to share. The only reason I did not move her to a different bedroom is because her bedroom is painted a girly color and the rest of the rooms are not and she is my only girl.
Lately, because her older brother is about to turn 16, he is looking in to getting a job. Now he is finding out that places hire 15 yr olds around here. But, when he asks about hiring, she will jump in and say something along the lines of "can you hire me at 14 anyway? please please, I really want a job." said all babyish. I told her to stop it when that happened at Taco Bell tonight. I explained to her again that she just looks like a difficult rude child when she does that and in a year, when she is old enough, they will remember her and not hire her. But in the meantime, she can do volunteer work if she likes. No, she is not interested. I told her that her job is concentrating on school and childhood for now and we can talk going to work part time when she is closer to 16 but not now.
Ok, so when we get home, I had to run to the bathroom so I asked her to watch the baby and she kept ignoring me while staring at the TV. Finally, I decided to tell her to turn off the TV. So she just started screaming at me and saying she hates me.
I was supposed to go out tonight with DH. She was supposed to babysit and in exchange, I was giving her money to go to the movies tomorrow. DH and I are seeing the movie tonight. Movies here are expensive, as in $9.50 per ticket and we give them money for snacks too. I guess I said we are going to the movie tonight, but based on her nasty mood, we will not be going after all.
I know kids her age can be rude and such, but I have always kept a lot of discipline here (btw, she is grounded from her computer for one week over this). In her case, she can be great for a few weeks and then nasty and mean for a little bit, then back to great.
Does this sound normal to you or do you think that maybe she has a mood disorder that she should be seen for? Or a mood disorder to keep watching out for?
I need to add what happened earlier. Previously, she played cello for 2 years. Then she picked up viola last year. So, she has 2 years of cello and half a year of viola total. (started cello fall 2008 and got her viola Christmas 2009 and started lessons a little while later). Both her instructors told her she needs to pick one and drop the other. I guess the strings or something is in opposite directions or something, they explained it better. So, she loves the viola better, clearly. She had been complaining about the cello in recent times. She picked the viola. But then earlier today, when she wanted me to come in and talk to her, she was bawling because she felt she was too old to change instruments.
I need to add more, just now, she came in, acting all sweet and I told her to please leave and she asked me why did I seem angry with her. ummmm...because she just got done screaming at me and such.
I do stay calm and cool with everything. I do stay fair and consistent with consequences. She does have a computer because she needed it for school, but I does not have stuff like cell phones and such so I am not spoiling her at all.
I am suspecting a specific mood disorder that I have seen in dh's family. In my family, we have depression that runs, but that is not what I am thinking is going on as it seems to be swings.
Does this sound like normal teenaged angst? or something more?