more advice please

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more advice please
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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 1:00pm
So what would you do? As you know from previous posts some of things I am dealing with. Well here's the newest. My daughter is graduating the 19th of May. We were planning a graduation party for the the day after. Nothing set in stone but my husband has arranged for the Friday off so we can prepare. Well my daughter informed me that we couldn't have it that day now because that is the day her boyfriends cousin is having his graduation party so I need to plan hers for a dfferent day. Should I keep my mouth shut and try to rearrange dates or should I just plan it for that day.
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Mon, 04-10-2006 - 1:40pm

If your husband can rearrange things and you haven't told a ton of other people who are adjusting their schedules to your original date, I think I'd ask your dd exactly what date is ok and then hold her to it. If not, you can tell her that's the day, or you guys just won't be having a party for her. JMHO.

Sue

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-10-2006 - 2:07pm

Personally, if that was the day that was most convenient for MOST people, I would keep the date. First of all, your family should come before BF's or his cousin. Second, I have found that most graduates are only at thier graduation party part of the time - they generally go to other graduation parties after the first hour or so and eventually meander back to thier own later in the day or evening. The graduation party may be in thier honor, but it's usually the guests who are doing all the schmoozing and visiting, not the actual graduate.

We're having our dd's graduation party the evening of the actual graduation, which is going to be a PIMA, but because we have so much of dd's dad's family coming in from out of town, I'd rather entertain them once instead of having them come back on another day.

Also, my niece in the same school is graduating, so my sister will be having her party the following day so that was a conflict. DD has already stated her disinterest in a BIG party but since we have families coming in from out of town, we really feel we have no choice. In addition, the school sponsors an overnight drug/alcohol free graduation party for the kids at a local gym (it's outstanding, I've chaperoned) so the kids really won't be at the parties all the long anyway.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 4:01am
If changing the date of your party to say, Sunday, would not inconvenience the majority of your guests then changing it would probably make your life easier in terms of dealing with your dd. If it would be inconvenient then keep it on Saturday. Maybe you can time yours so that it doesn't completely overlap with bf's cousin's party. Most of the other graduates will probably be having their parties on that day too...as someone else mentioned, the kids often go to several parties and don't stay at their own party for the entire time. If that will be the deal at your house then be sure to work it out in advance with your dd so you feel that she spends enough time visiting with the relatives etc at her party before she can leave.