More suicide talk...

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More suicide talk...
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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 7:40am

Well, I have posted about the local missing girl that everyone suspects committed suicide. DD had a situation last night that really freaked her out. One of her best guy friends told her on im he was gonna kill himself. It's not the first time he's done this to her - well, dd totally flipped out. The first time he did this to her, was about a year ago and when dd turned him down, gently I might add. He has done it a few times since, but not as dramatic as last night. The boys father also committed suicide a few years ago, I don't know the details. DD said she was going to go the guidance counselor about it today, to try and get this boy some help, but I don't know if she will. I know she's worried he will flip out on her. Should I go to the school armed with the chat conversation? He knows I know, because after I forced dd to go to bed last night, I chatted with him (I told him dd was flipping out and I forced her to show me the conversation). He never said anything to me about what was going on or what he had talked to dd about...

I told dd that those that talk about suicide are asking for help. At that point, she was ticked at this kid for doing this to her yet again....she was flipping out on everyone close to her, while trying to get this kid's cousins' phone number and everyone was just nonchalantly saying he won't do it. She didn't think he would either, with the history they have, but after the missing girl she was terrified this would be "the time" and she would feel responsible. And to her credit, he was much more specific than he had ever been.....how he was going to do it and left goodbye messages for dd to give to specific people....

He needs help....I don't know the family and I don't personally know the kid - if dd doesn't go to the guidance counselor, what is my place?




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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 6:07pm

Yea - repercussions :(

I guess they pulled the kid out of class with a police escort and he was taken to the hospital for I can only assume a psych evaluation. He must have passed cuz he is now home and is already giving dd a hard time :( She's totally shaken up. He knows it was her (and I told her to blame me which she did lol) because apparently out of how many people he told last night, apparently she was the only one he gave specific "good byes" to. So, basically, this isn't looking too good.

*sigh*




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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 9:44pm

Please, give your dd a hug and tell her that she did the right thing (and you, too), if you haven't already done so. She should go to bed tonight at peace with herself. The boy is an absolute jerk (and incredibly immature). He brought these events on entirely by himself and there is only one person to "blame". How is he contacting your dd? By phone? Then screen all the calls or block his number. Keep some distance from him. At a minimum, he is unstable. Hugs to you and your dd. She is a hero in my book. Tell her to hold her head up with pride (or tell her that I said she should hold her head up, lol!) I think everyone here will say she did the right thing!!

Amelia

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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 10:19pm
He im'd her and it wasn't pretty. She finally blocked him and I stupidly decided to try and tell him it was me and to leave her out of it. He admitted it wasn't a joke, so I dunno what he expected, then he got nasty with me. Dd knows it was the right thing to do, but she is quite worried. I'm contemplating keeping her home tomorrow as they are off all next week, let things die down, but she is determined to take a friend a cake for her bday.... The weird thing is he re-did his AIM info and dd's name is still in there as one of his best friends....idk I just don't like it at all.....



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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 10:54pm

The rollercoaster continues - now he just im'd her apologizing to her and thanking her for everything....idk

When does life become peaceful and worry-free?? I'm so skeptical and think it's a trick - why do I always have to think like that???




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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 3:10pm
I guess he was sincere with his apology. DD said he gave her the biggest hug when he saw her today. She didn't get any negative reactions from anyone for what we did - nothing at all. She now has to go to the guidance office every morning for counseling lol to make sure she didn't get any ideas.



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