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| Tue, 05-16-2006 - 12:18am |
Well, here I am sitting at my computer and all I can think of was my
visit at Moms yesterday. When I arrived my oldest sister was there
with her husband and autistic son. He will be entering the 8th grade
next year. While I was sitting there visiting, he started sticking his
hand in her crotch. She told him not to do that, but he continued on.
Then when she shoved his hand away, he started kicking her foot with
his foot real hard, several times. I told him that this was not nice
and to stop hurting his mother. He spun into a whirlwind rocking in
MOms recliner real hard, and it took quite a while to get him to stop.
He then layed on the pillow back of her new couch which lasted a while too.
Finally when we were able to get him to sit like normal, he sat there and
looked at his mother and said "moms a Bit*H!" When I heard that I went off.
I told him that this was not nice and that he should be ashamed of himself.
He sat there and laughed at me. I them told him it wasn't funny and that if
he was my son I would have slapped him. I proceeded to tell my sister that
I would not take that from a child and that if he was mine he would be
really punished for this. His father sat there and didn't try to calm the
boy down, neither did my sister. I am so sick of this... it ruined yet another
special day for my mother and I am just so tired of it! I got up to leave
and they did the same. I felt so bad for my MOther, who had to witness this.
She told me that she was afraid to say anything, but I told her that I wasn't
that they could be mad at me I didn't care.
GOD bless those who have autistic children, they have thier hands full.

I'm sorry you had such a stressful visit with your mom, I have two autistic brothers, both of them around 30 now, and I know what a challenge they can be.
I agree. I think you should plan a nice visit with your mom alone, perhaps go to lunch or to a nice park or museum - someplace where you can have a nice visit without disruption.
My closest friend's dd is autistic and I see the challenges she faces everyday. The typical phrases, time outs and disciplines simply do not apply. It's constant repition for my friend when it comes to her dd acting out inappropriately. There are days when she feels like she's landed on Mars and nothing makes sense. She's had to leave stores with a basket full of groceries; birthday parties before they even start; and family functions are sometimes ruined as well with her dd running around screaming the "F" word really loud. Fortunately, she's surrounded by a family that understands and is supportive. Her dd has an extremely charming and loving side as well so we try to focus on the positive behavior rather than the negative.
I'm sorry get togethers with your entire family are so stressful - I hope you're able to plan some time alone with your mom. Perhaps you and your sister can take her out together sans children and husbands?
my mothers when I know that my sister is going to be there.
This time, I went without calling and then when I got there
since I did't have my son with me I thought, okay, I can do this.
I was wrong... oh well...I will definately do better next time.
Signlady
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