My 17 year old daughter is a criminal. How do I get her out my house today?

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My 17 year old daughter is a criminal. How do I get her out my house today?
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Thu, 01-13-2011 - 8:00pm

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OmegaBruh

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I don't think the issue is whether she is a lesbian or what her clothes look like. Omega got angry with her because she is a criminal who has stolen things. He may or may

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Registered: 04-13-2010

I've read some of the postings and if your dd is indeed a lesbian, this is who she is..period. So what if she wants to wear clothes that are not something you would choose? I'm sorry, but I have such a problem with this..You really need to respect your dd's choice, and allow her to dress how she feels most comfortable. You cannot make her into someone she is not, or comform to dressing how you see fit, especially at this age. It is absurd to me that you would strip your dd of her image because you don't *like* it. She will never be this age again, let her blossom into the person she is going to become, in the grand scheme of things, style of dress is miniscule.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

You act like it would be a choice for her to be a lesbian or not.

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I guess I'm even more confused. I thought the main issue was stealing. I think I'd concentrate on that as it's a legal issue, vs. how she dresses (many teens make statements - I think clothes (esp baggy vs. super skimpy) or hair are pretty minor as they can always change, vs. something like tattoos, etc.) Being a lesbian is something you aren't comfortable with but not something she can just change. I'd go for the legal angle. It sounds to me like she can do nothing right in your book - even if you get the stealing stopped and the clothes changed she'll feel like a failure because she's a lesbian and you won't accept that. JMHO.

Sue.
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Registered: 11-13-2009
It's hard to tell if you're more unhappy with her being lesbian, or the way she dresses. Can you be more precise?

Sorry for what you're going through. I'm of the thought that all the counseling in the world won't change some kids' direction.

 

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BC/BS Federal won't pay for anything considered to be program, such as day treatment or residential.

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OmegaBruh

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The clothes thing did not happen recently. Sorry I did not make that clear.

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OmegaBruh

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Sorry. We don't like our daughter dressing in mens clothing. Head to toe. Baggy girls clothes would be an improvement.

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OmegaBruh

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My wife and I do not like her being a lesbian. Its that simple. She likes to wear mens clothes all saggy and baggy. Taking those away was a consequence that got her attention.

Her sexuality does affect what's happening. She is completely enthralled w/ the street thug look and mentality.

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OmegaBruh

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I have to agree with your wife and the others.

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