My daughter is coming home today

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Registered: 04-06-2006
My daughter is coming home today
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:10pm

Hi everyone...


just a quick recap cause I know I'm not on here much.

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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 1:14pm

(((((((((Hugs))))))))))))) I know how hard this has all been as I have told you I lived this with my sister and her son!! Congrats on getting married!!!! I will say that moving away is the BEST fresh start your dd could have, and how lucky for you all, as many people can't always do that! Please know that I'll be thinking of you cause it stays hard a rocky for a long time :( Hang in there and remember you are doing all that you can!!

Julie

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Registered: 11-06-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 2:56pm
Best wishes to all of you! Congratulations to your daughter for being able to look forward and see a hopeful future for herself, and accept the help that has been offered. Congratulations to you for your upcoming wedding.
Best wishes to you all!
Sallie
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Registered: 08-17-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:57pm

CONGRATULATIONS and thanks so much for the update!

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Registered: 04-06-2006
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 6:13pm

Thanks Marie. and thanks everyone


I did a post on the TT board.


Here's an update


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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 6:47pm

((((((((((((more Hugs)))))))))))) I know that this is some of what my sister (single mom) had the hardest time with :( the fact that you have to get her to these appointments and still work. Maybe you can get a friend or a family memeber to help you out. My dad and myself helped my sister as much as we could. The outpatient stuff is hard on the schedual and so hard on you too!! Try and find someone you can lean on for the emotional support. My sis would call me about every other day and just cry.....I just listened and it seemed to help. You do have the strength, you have done all of this already Hang in there, prayers and positive thoughts comming your way!!!

Julie

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:32am

Another update....


Within the first hour or so that we were home, I had to call the police on her.

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:36am
i am new here, but feel compelled to share with you about your daughter. mine is also 16 and we have been stuggling with her for about 4 years. she also is a cutter, addict and has been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. it has been an endless battle. she has run away multiple times, been picked up by the police (who would not take her to juvenile no matter what),and she has been in a 6 month behavioral health center. we thought we were making progress. she has been in therapy for two years, but we were wrong. it just keeps getting worse. she is almost seventeen now and refuses to go to school, is very promiscuous, has started using drugs again and has now refused therapy and her medication. her case worker has basically told me that there is nothing more they can do. if she is determined to self destruct, we can not stop her. what i have chosen to do is set rules that will atleast let me know where she is and who she is with. I keep condoms available because i know that she will find a way to have sex. I check her room and belongings for drugs and she knows that if i find them i will call the police. i give her no money because she uses it for drugs. i know it is hard but at this point you have done all that you can. she has to want something else. in the meantime, you can not let her destroyyour home. stand firm with your man or she will play you off of each other. i have five girls and she has been the biggest heartache. i cry inside for her every day but some kids just have to hit the ground really hard before they wake up. be strong and hang on to your own life so that when she does wake up you can help her to pick up the pieces.
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 10:04am

{{{Shari}}} You're carrying a very heavy load right now. I hope that between your job and the FMLA and dd pushing her limits and your buttons, you're able to take some time out to recharge your batteries. Once that security system is in place, be sure to take advantage of it by giving yourself some alone, down time.

I have heard about the unruly petition and police intervention and it's a wonderful program for families who are trying to make things work within their home.

Best of luck and congrats on this second chance with your dd.

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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 10:13am
Good luck to you and your daughter....hope that all works out!