my dd broke up with her boyfriend

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Registered: 03-25-2003
my dd broke up with her boyfriend
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Tue, 10-03-2006 - 11:01am

she'd been considering it since they don't get to see each other anymore and it seems as if he didn't really care whether he saw her or not... she would always be the one calling or IM'ng to find out if he was able to come and he'd never know and wait till the last minute to tell her that he couldn't... granted - sometimes these things are out of a 14 yr old's control -- which i explained to her - but for both of us it wasn't that he couldn't make plans it's that he really didn't care about it ...

it was hard for her to do -- first boyfriend and all and i think irrationally she thinks she'll never have another boyfriend --- i think she's also hurting that he really didn't care but i told her that he's a 14 yr old boy after all - and in my experience - they dont get that much better the older they get ... lol

so ... i'm sure she's having a rough day - this all happened last night - she tried to get out of going to school today because of it - but she went after claiming to have not gotten any sleep last night...

rachel

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 11:13am

You should be proud of her for making a tough decision. These things are of utmost importance to a 14 y/o girl. She may not have gotten much sleep last night but you were right to make her go to school today. As she grows up, there will many, many more days that she has to get up and go without sleep. It's tough but it's life!

Fix her her favorite meal tonight and try to keep her occuppied. Whatever you do, don't say anything bad about the guy. My DD always felt that I was attacking her when I said anything bad about the b/f - after all, she made the choice to go out with him. Plus you never know they might get back together.

Give her lots of hugs!!

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 11:58am
Aww - this will probably be the first of many 'break ups' for your dd.
Pam
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 11:23pm

How is your DD doing tonight?