My married brother sleeps in room with 13 year old son instead of with his wife.
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|Wed, 06-29-2011 - 1:47pm|
I don't have children so my brother will not listen to any advice I have. I wanted to post here - for other folks that have children to respond. He sleeps in a bunkbed with my 13 year old nephew. (He sleeps in lower bunk, nephew sleeps in upper bunk.) I think his wife prefers he sleep with her. I fear that this behavior is severely stunting for a 13 year old's normal development. He is home schooled, has limited opportunities for social interactions (except an occasional outings with a small group of other home schoolers), and is in general - a fearful young man. My brother sleeping in his room is doing nothing to helping him, but I feel like he's instead inabling him. I strongly believe this is wrong as a child should be sleeping alone at an early age and 13 is beyond too old. Also - I don't believe it sets a good precedent for the parents who should be establishing healthy boundaries and showing the children that the parents are in love and a team. Instead it is reinforcing my nephew's fears and my brother is putting his emotional needs in front of his wife's. Again - I feel like it is affecting my nephew's normal development in becoming a healthy, independent person. My brother will not listen to this. He just says "You do not have children, so you don't understand." If I didn't think this was extremely dysfunctional - I would not be asking for input from other parents and would mind my own business. I would, however love any input or advice from other parents please. Thank you for your time!