Well, my son is almost 17 and a Jr. in
Does he drive or at least want to?
I will probably have an unpopular opinion, and I acknowledge that my kid is only 13 yo.
That being said, I'd:
Cut off his allowance and spending money, if he gets any. He can get a job for extra money since he has all this free time to just sit around.
Say nothing about extra-curriculars unless he brings up college, and then just remind him that he'll need some on his application or he won't get in. So in other words, remind but don't nag.
I'd tell him today that if he doesn't make it into a college, that he'll be expected to be working full-time after high school. Tell him that six months after the last day of high school, if he's not attending college or working full-time, then he'll be kicked out and will have to fend completely for himself.
Just my two cents. Feel free to ignore it, LOL. :-)
What about suggesting he do some type of volunteer work?
Your son is doing good in school.
You're far from alone. I figured that my opinion would not be a popular one.
Yes, I would. Both my skids, even my mentally retarded step-son, were living on their own before their 19th birthdays. My step-son moved out a month after he turned 18, and my step-daughter moved out two weeks after high school graduation when she was about 18.5 yo. They both had full-time jobs, were done school for the foreseeable future, and they both wanted to live independently.
My DS is 13yo and already knows how it will go for him once he's finished high school. He can continue his education and continue to live at home, or get a job and move out. Time to study, or time to fly little bird.