my son tested positive for pot :(
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my son tested positive for pot :(
| Thu, 03-23-2006 - 5:21pm |
OMG, i knew something was up, i have a 16 yr ds and i was suspisious so i told him he had to have a urynalisis to as part of his physical...the pediatrician's office told my by phone the results..my stomach was in knots so i went to pick up a copy to confront my son w/it and i asked to speak to the doc..well, i ofcourse had to wait and after 1 hr, someone finally noticed i was still waiting..i guess nobody bothered to tell his nurse that i was waiting to see him, anyway, i did not mind waiting cuz it gave me time to relax , breath, think, and as i was sitting there, all those toddlers were coming and going , tears from fever, crying from shots, but when the mom handed them the lollipop at the counter after the apt, they was thrilled and smilling...i would take those days back in an instant and do it all different. God, what did it do that brought my son to not know better? i noticed his mood swings and tired all the time so that is why i asked for a toxicology/drug screen i just had a bad feeling...it came back positive for pot. we have not spoken to my son yet. the doc gave me urin bottles and i can test him in 30 days to see if he's clean...i have a counseling apt already set for him before i even got these results cuz i just did not like the way he was acting but he is refusing to go. now that i have this info, i may have more leverage to make him go. the doc said just if it was positive for something, be thinkful it's pot and not herion or crack or coke. .. i would just be happy w/sugar shock from too much candy. how do we handle this w/him? where do we go from here? anyone that has gone through this i would really like to know what you did and how you made out. thanx for listening...

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When our ds went through that phase last year he said the same thing - that he wouldn't promise not to stop using drugs.
I don't have any btdt experience with drugs, but my dd was on meds briefly for depression (Wellbutrin) and one of the most important things to the dr. was to know that my dd wasn't using drugs - the combination of drugs and meds can be dangerous - she went so far as to suggest a random drug test even though we have had no evidence that dd has ever used drugs. I would be extremely worried about the pot use and not just because of it being a "gateway" drug but because of the mix of it (and you have to know that you don't always know what else is in there with the pot) with the Zoloft is dangerous. I imagine you have already talked to his psychiatrist about this - as being on meds he must be monitored. How did you get him to go to those exams?
While I do agree that you have to keep the lines of communication open - something about this just doesn't sit right with me, as a parent. Your child tells you he's going to continue to use pot and you're supposed to be okay with that, continue to allow him the same privileges you always have - i.e., use of your computer, home, food, electricity, clothing, car, gasoline, insurance....the list is endless, unless he pays for alot of these things himself. I would be angry; it's pretty "nervy" to say something like that to your parents; okay, it's "honest" but...if I were you I would take Pat's advise and start severely limiting his time with friends and other privileges. You just can't be your son's friend right now. He's going to hate you, and tell you that, don't fall for it. He'll always love you, especially when he's an adult and remembers how you saved him from himself...good luck.
I get it - you get the RX for the Zoloft through the pediatrician. Hmmm, didn't think you could do that...live and learn. I would still tell the pediatrician that he was found positive for pot and ask how what he feels about the combo of these two drugs and their possible interactions. Good luck to you.
I'm just jumping in here mid-way... but I have something to say about the gay porn thing, even though I was unsure exactly what Cedar saw when she checked.
But I told my DH once I found gay porn on the comp's history. He freaked out and began telling me how it happened. He was so freaked out that he "made" me sit at the computer and go through exactly what he did.
It started from an ad for rebuilt motors in an airplane magazine! So I went there and then he showed me how he again clicked on "rebuilt motors" and it went straight to gay porn, and very very graphic stuff, too. I eventually contacted this well-known magazine and told them what happened.
So I don't jump to any conclusions anymore about what I find on the computer.
Good luck, Cedar.
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