My world isn't a happy place these days

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My world isn't a happy place these days
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Mon, 09-04-2006 - 9:57pm

I'm not sure what I should call this thread, but I did want to let you all know what's going on with me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-04-2006 - 10:16pm

As the wife of an army soldier that is leaving this month for Afghanistan, I can almost relate. As much as I love my dh, I can only imagine how it feels to see 3 sons "over there."

I can't offer much but any support you need!

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Mon, 09-04-2006 - 10:20pm

{ { { Hugs } } } I hope your sons stay safe during their time in the service. I'll be thinking about you.

Respectfully,
Amelia

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Mon, 09-04-2006 - 10:22pm

Rose, it's so good to hear from you again. Thanks for responding to my post about H. and her mother. I don't know if I've ever mentioned it,but H. has a brother in Iraq as well. She is also very proud of him, was always close to him as it was just the two of them. Tragically, they lost two boys between the son and H. - one at age 3 and one stillborn. Having their only son in Iraq has got to be very stressful, too - and I think that is one of the reasons why my dd, who really has a big heart,feels so sorry for the family and H. I do feel for them, but I don't see it as an excuse to turn towards drugs and addiction. I personally think that the son worries about his family, and doesn't he have enough to worry about? So many familes are going through this, such as your own, and can handle it without turning to drugs and their escape.

I cannot even begin to imagine what you're going through - my prayers are with you and your family for the safety and protection of your sons. And yes I do see how little our problems are when I see them in this scope. So, thanks for that!

Marie

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Tue, 09-05-2006 - 12:01am

Rose,

I can't imagine the sadness, heartache and pride you must feel. I cried for you when I read your post. I know you hurt so much right now - wanting to hug your babies/young men and keep them safe and comfort them during their fear and loss. I felt all that and more when DD's b/f was deployed and he's not mine DS (not yet anyway).

You've done a wonderful job raising such fine young men. Your input on the board is invaluable expecially when it is to occassionally remind us that there are bigger things to worry about. I've always valued your opinion and usually your words were exactly what I needed to hear. I hope you'll continue giving that wonderful support you've always given but I also certainly understand your choice to maybe take a break for a while.

How's DH doing through all this? If I remember correctly, he was military too. So he probably knows a little better than you what the boys are and will be actually facing and feeling. In some ways this may comfort him but in other ways I'm sure it makes it harder for him. I hope you guys are giving lots of hugs.

I wish there was something I could do to help but all I can do is pray and you've been getting that for a while now.

Lia

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 9:11am

I honestly can't even imagine!

I think of the fear the first time they take the car out or the first night away at college and this has to be so much worse. Accidents happen but your boys are in a place where there is intention to hurt along with the accident potential

I don't know how you hold it together-my hat is off to you and all those in similar circumstances

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 9:53am

Wow, Rose, you have a lot on your mind these days. I will keep your boys in my thoughts and prayers.

I don't think anyone here really has any concrete "expectations" from any other members - we all know that sometimes we can be there and others, we sadly cannot. Just remember to take time for yourself once in a while. You already know in your heart that your boys have made thier own choices about where they want to be and where they want to go - like you said, the paybacks are awesome.

Hugs Rose.

I'm happy that N is doing so well - she's always sounded like a great kid in your posts, even when she was being a pita.

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 10:28am
Thanks so much for updating, Rose.
Pam
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Registered: 03-06-2006
Tue, 09-05-2006 - 11:10am

{{{Hugs}} to you Rose. I can only imagine what you are going through with all this. I just got a 'chain' e-mail today praying for the protection of our troops in Iraq. I hope you will find some comfort, however small, in knowing that all over the nation, there are people lifting your sons and their comrades up in prayer.

Julie

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 09-05-2006 - 2:15pm
Hi Rose! BIG hugs - I can imagine the mixed feelings of pride and worry. I'll keep your boys in my prayers every day. In the meantime, enjoy N. - it sounds like she's having a great year, and this will give you some really wonderful mother/daughter bonding time!
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Registered: 07-19-2003
Wed, 09-06-2006 - 11:41am

Who would ever have thought, with so many years of relative peace and quiet, that we would be a generation of parents worried about our sons and daughters going to war? Our parents lost parents or family members in WWII. Other conflicts occurred in between but never anything to the scale we have seen recently with first the Gulf War in the 90s and then now in Afghanistan and Iraq. I am Canadian and even our troops which have been relatively untouched are now seeing combat on a regular basis due to increased violence in Afghanistan.

All I can say is I thank goodness there are people, like your sons, capable and willing to take on these challenges. My H used to be in the army reserve when he was a young man and through this I earned a great deal of respect for the training they receive. And although it is nerve-wracking to hear of injuries and losses, the overwhelming, vast majority do come back safe and sound. And what's important to me is to support these men and women and acknowledge their enormous contribution.

My prayers go out for your sons and all troops involved...

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