Need Some Advice

Hugs to you, this sounds like a very difficult situation. I can see you are trying to do the right thing here and I agree, she does need a parental figure in her life and unfortunately as a teen, she's not going to really enjoy that all the time. I agree with the others that she probably has a lot to work out and is probably dealing with a lot of fear and anger about not having your mother around. Another thing that struck me, though, when reading your post is that I wonder if she is also craving some sister time ... I wonder if you could try to plan something special, like a trip to the mall or to get your nails done (find a discount if money is an issue) where you might be able to talk to her when things are more relaxed? Just a thought. I know you said you have tried doing different things, so I don't want to suggest something that hasn't worked. Have you been able to talk with the guidance counselor from her school? They may be able to also give you some insight and support. Please let us know how it is going.