Need Some Advice

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Need Some Advice
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 12:17am

This is my first post on this board, and I need some help.

I am not a parent of a teen, but my sister is a teen. At the beginning of January our mother went to the hospital for physical therapy. She is in a wheelchair and further injury left her in a bad place. They are trying to rehabilitate her to walk around most places in the house. She has broken spinal discs and no cartilage inbetween her knee and leg bones.

Anyways, since then my sister has been staying with me.


Mommy to Lilly Mae

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Registered: 10-09-2010
Mon, 03-28-2011 - 7:38pm
Hugs to you, this sounds like a very difficult situation. I can see you are trying to do the right thing here and I agree, she does need a parental figure in her life and unfortunately as a teen, she's not going to really enjoy that all the time. I agree with the others that she probably has a lot to work out and is probably dealing with a lot of fear and anger about not having your mother around. Another thing that struck me, though, when reading your post is that I wonder if she is also craving some sister time ... I wonder if you could try to plan something special, like a trip to the mall or to get your nails done (find a discount if money is an issue) where you might be able to talk to her when things are more relaxed? Just a thought. I know you said you have tried doing different things, so I don't want to suggest something that hasn't worked. Have you been able to talk with the guidance counselor from her school? They may be able to also give you some insight and support. Please let us know how it is going.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 8:40pm

All this must really be hard for you but I think you are doing the right thing.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 9:58am

Many gentle hugs to you for trying to stand in as a mother figure to your sister. Is she receiving any counselling? Part of her attitude is probably normal teen behavior but she may be having trouble dealing with a mom that's in such poor health and perhaps feels kind of 'shuttled' from place to place.