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|Fri, 06-06-2003 - 1:41pm|
If he does anything I tell him to do (chores, picking up after himself, schoolwork) he either won't do it or will wait until I take things off of him. He is very stubborn and will go weeks without tv or computer so that he doesn't do what I ask of him. ON top of that he is very disrespectful, will swear and call me names. Tells me he hates me, hopes I have a heart attack in my sleep, wishes I would die.
The last thing I should add is that mother has been a big problem. She hates me and has always treated my badly around my son. That is why I won't have anything to do with her anymore. She talks to my son about me and tells him that I am mean, abusive, etc. But he has gotten disgusted with her and has refused to talk to her for 2 weeks now.
So I guess if anyone has any suggestion, that would be great. But we have tried the consequences route - no tv, no computer, etc. That hasn't work. We have tried a therapist - that hasn't worked. The last one said that I should not expect my son to cooperate with me. (My parenting style has always been kind of middle of the road. I have always been willing to give him more priveleges as he shows more responsibility. I wasn't permissive but I wasn't strict. But there were certain ways to act and behave).
But my real question is my feelings toward my son. God help me but I have started not only seriously disliking him but having feelings of hatred at his treatment of me. I feel like just leaving and never returning. I have a hard time looking at him with love. Yes I love him but I can't take it anymore. Has anyone else had this emotion? How do you deal with it?