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| Sun, 06-03-2007 - 9:24pm |
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I'm new to the board and glad I found it! I have a 14 1/2 year old son and I am so confused and need some advice. A situation came up tonight that was a bit distressing to say the least. My son got a call at 8:30 tonight inviting him to a sleepover (school tomorrow) with a group of kids from school. The kid who is having the sleepover,his mother I don't know at all but to say hello to since our kids play on the same basketball team. This was apparently a last minute thing. I really don't know the kid very well either but it seems he is allowed way more freedom than I would ever give my son. His parents are divorced and this kid is home by himself after school and kids are over all the time while the mother is still at work. It just wreaks of trouble. Maybe I am overprotective but I keep wondering why would the mother even allow a sleepover last minute like this on a school night. I wouldn't let him go. Anyone?
I'm new to the board and glad I found it! I have a 14 1/2 year old son and I am so confused and need some advice. A situation came up tonight that was a bit distressing to say the least. My son got a call at 8:30 tonight inviting him to a sleepover (school tomorrow) with a group of kids from school. The kid who is having the sleepover,his mother I don't know at all but to say hello to since our kids play on the same basketball team. This was apparently a last minute thing. I really don't know the kid very well either but it seems he is allowed way more freedom than I would ever give my son. His parents are divorced and this kid is home by himself after school and kids are over all the time while the mother is still at work. It just wreaks of trouble. Maybe I am overprotective but I keep wondering why would the mother even allow a sleepover last minute like this on a school night. I wouldn't let him go. Anyone?

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"I didn't realize how hard it would be having a teen especially knowing how much freedom to give them."
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I wouldnt allow a sleepover on a school night
I probably would have agreed if it was a weekend night with a kid on my son's basketball team.
No sleepovers here on a school night!
Well I guess we are all in agreement that there are no sleepovers on school nights. My 11 yo DS has to get up around 7:00 and I can hardly get him up w/o anybody sleeping over. The high school kids have to get the bus at 6:50.
It's hard when they are in high school because you don't get to know the parents as much. It's not like when they are little and you take them to the play ground and sit there and chat w/ the other mom while the kids are on the swings. Unless they are in your neighborhood, church or some group where you can spend time w/ them, it's usually just saying hi at the door. And you can't tell just by appearance, either. I know my DSD's friend had a really overprotective mother who just seemed not to want to let her DD come over our house, even when both DH & I were home and even after I had introduced myself to her at a soccer game. Like, how were we going to pass inspection? I supposed if she had seen DH's tattoos, she really would have freaked! lol He doesn't even have his long hair or earrings any more, since I finally convinced him that after 50, the aging hippie look really doesn't cut it.
As far as being home alone after school, the mom might not have any choice. I was divorced w/ 2 kids and it was easier w/ the younger one, who had daycare, then an all day kindergarten and after school programs at school. I did have DD in after school even in middle school. But by the time you get to high school when they are too old for after school and too young for work, it gets kind of difficult. I know that my DD was home alone a lot when she was about 13 in the summer just because there were no opportunities for her to do other stuff (and I couldn't afford sleep over camp). She often had friends over because I actually would prefer her not being home alone, but it was more like one friend at a time, not a big group. They never did anything wrong either. But it depends on the child's personality and how much you can trust them.
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