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| Sun, 06-03-2007 - 9:24pm |
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I'm new to the board and glad I found it! I have a 14 1/2 year old son and I am so confused and need some advice. A situation came up tonight that was a bit distressing to say the least. My son got a call at 8:30 tonight inviting him to a sleepover (school tomorrow) with a group of kids from school. The kid who is having the sleepover,his mother I don't know at all but to say hello to since our kids play on the same basketball team. This was apparently a last minute thing. I really don't know the kid very well either but it seems he is allowed way more freedom than I would ever give my son. His parents are divorced and this kid is home by himself after school and kids are over all the time while the mother is still at work. It just wreaks of trouble. Maybe I am overprotective but I keep wondering why would the mother even allow a sleepover last minute like this on a school night. I wouldn't let him go. Anyone?
I'm new to the board and glad I found it! I have a 14 1/2 year old son and I am so confused and need some advice. A situation came up tonight that was a bit distressing to say the least. My son got a call at 8:30 tonight inviting him to a sleepover (school tomorrow) with a group of kids from school. The kid who is having the sleepover,his mother I don't know at all but to say hello to since our kids play on the same basketball team. This was apparently a last minute thing. I really don't know the kid very well either but it seems he is allowed way more freedom than I would ever give my son. His parents are divorced and this kid is home by himself after school and kids are over all the time while the mother is still at work. It just wreaks of trouble. Maybe I am overprotective but I keep wondering why would the mother even allow a sleepover last minute like this on a school night. I wouldn't let him go. Anyone?

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Just chiming in with what everyone else has already said -- no sleepovers on school nights!
Truth is, I don't like sleepovers on any night (but I do allow them, grudingly) because there isn't any sleeping at all going on and everyone is tired and cranky for days afterward.
Ditto to all, not on a school night. And now that she's a teen and so practiced at arranging overnights with SO many friends, I have had to add the rule of only one sleepover per weekend. DD would prefer to be out every Friday AND Saturday night, sleep all day Sunday and wake up Monday with a nasty headcold. I watched my younger Sis do this throughout High School. She missed most Mondays and barely graduated. And after staying home sick on Monday, she would go out to dinner with friends on Monday night!
When my DD was younger, we also had the rule of no spur-of-the-moment sleepovers... because whoever she played with that day she would always beg to be allowed to stay over. No matter what we had planned for later, or for the next morning - you know how kids don't want the fun to end. I could see it heading to where I wouldn't be able to get her to leave anyone's house without going through a huge SCENE in front of the other parents, and I wasn't going to put up with that! When the other parents learned about my "advance notice" rule, they started using it, too.
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