New to board, advice really appreciated

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Registered: 07-28-2013
New to board, advice really appreciated
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Sun, 07-28-2013 - 4:28pm

Hi, I have a 13 year old daughter.  My worry is, she never seems to have a friendship group or go out with friends at all.  She says she is happy staying in but I am so worried about her being alone.  She sometimes tries to arrange to do things with other girls but they always seem to be letting her down.  I am not sure if she is a horrible person or if the girls just dont think she is worth being friends with (she is very quiet and blends in to the background).  I have suggested joining clubs but she just says she doesnt want to.  Do you think I am worrying as she is just 13 or should she really be out and about more.  I know I shouldnt be getting involved but it is breaking my heart always seeing her alone x  Please be honest with replies 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 08-03-2013 - 11:11am

OH yes, I remember that when my son was around that age, during the summer he seemed like he never wanted to call his friends.  He wasn't totally alone since he had an older DS & DSS and he'd spend time at his dad's house, grandma's house, etc.  His attitude was "I saw those kids enough in school."  But then the next year in school he became more social & joined some clubs.  Now going into senior year he's an editor of the school paper, in a couple of other clubs, does some volunteer work & has not a huge no. of friends, but enough close friends to be able to have people to do things with.

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