New to board, advice really appreciated

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Registered: 07-28-2013
New to board, advice really appreciated
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Sun, 07-28-2013 - 4:28pm

Hi, I have a 13 year old daughter.  My worry is, she never seems to have a friendship group or go out with friends at all.  She says she is happy staying in but I am so worried about her being alone.  She sometimes tries to arrange to do things with other girls but they always seem to be letting her down.  I am not sure if she is a horrible person or if the girls just dont think she is worth being friends with (she is very quiet and blends in to the background).  I have suggested joining clubs but she just says she doesnt want to.  Do you think I am worrying as she is just 13 or should she really be out and about more.  I know I shouldnt be getting involved but it is breaking my heart always seeing her alone x  Please be honest with replies 

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Sun, 07-28-2013 - 7:38pm

Has she ever had friends, or is this new since middle school?  How is her behavior otherwise?  Her health, weight, sleeping habits, activity level?  Does she exercise, play sports, get involved in extracurriculars like music or the school paper, volunteer?  How are her grades?

If she's always been a loner, but still is involved in school and the community, and her grades are excellent, then I would not worry.  If she sits in her room constantly, is overweight, is not engaged in ANYTHING, then take her to your Dr, and get a referral to a psychiatrist.  Depression is common among teens, and can be very serious.  Don't waste time. 

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