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| Mon, 01-22-2007 - 2:21pm |
OMG....this is awesome........our work put a filter on our internet, and mysteriously, today (after months...maybe close to a year) I am looking at the parents of teens forum....I am SOOOO excited................bear with me........I'm talkative!!!
We got around 5 inches of WET, SLICK snow Saturday night. My 16 yr old son was at an away basketball game, and did not return until around 11 pm. I text messaged him around 8:30 or 9 telling him NOT TO DRIVE the truck home, that it was slick and we'd leave the truck parked and my husband (his dad) would come pick him up. Lo and behold......he drove home..........he's only been 16 since October, and has NEVER driven in any bad weather. We were so SO angry....
We grounded him for a week, with an exception......the Winter Sports Dance is Saturday the 27th, and he'd already asked if he could go. We told him he was still allowed to go to the dance, BUT with severe restrictions.....no extended curfew (he has an early curfew due to not managing to make it home on time before he turned 16---so his curfew remains at 11), NO DRIVING, and we told him it was up in the air (undecided) if he could go to dinner with friends/date or if it was the dance only. We also told him it was undecided if anyone else could pick him up, or if it was back to pre-driving, and mom and dad chauffered...............
What do you all think? To hard on him? He's done some other things that have caused a breach in trust.............this was only a month ago.........so we've been sort of hard on him of late..
He 'claims' as manager of the team (he didn't make basketball :( that he had to put things away, and when he got out of the locker room everyone was already gone.....his phone had died (which was true....) and he didn't know what else to do, so he drove home. We told him that with maturity comes some forthought into life........he knew his phone was 'dying', because during one of our texts he told me that.......so my feeling is he should have checked his phone prior to leaving the locker room (and having the use of a phone in there).....he knew the phone was dying....or he could have parked his rear in the truck and waited for his dad to show up...we knew the phone was dying too, and my husband had headed to the school to wait on the bus (we didn't know it had arrived already), and saw him driving home......
Anyway, we are trying to instill the fact that he could have handled the situation a little differently..........and not put his life, the lives of others and the property of others on the line because 'he didn't know what else to do'.
What do you all think?
I'm SO glad to be back..........I don't know if anyone that posted way back when I did is still here or not............
Shels

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OK, gotcha!
I thought if you were going to punish him for letting his cell go dead, I was in deep doo-doo myself ;)
He was told; he knows what 'snow' is; yep, he deserves it!
Coaches didnt stay for the high school soccer teams the boys were on. They would have asked if the boys had a ride but once the boys said yes(and Im sure yours did)they would have left
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