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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 2:13pm

Hi All

I'm new here and was very excited to find a board for moms of teens. I have 2 kids boy almost 15 and girl 19. The girl is on her way to college so the "my daughter is crazy" stuff is behind me. But I think the worst is yet to come with a non-communicative boy still in the house. Anyway looking forward to sharing experiences, some good stories, and making new friends.

BTW, there is a dad/husband in the house as well :)

Special shout out to DC-metro folks

L

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In reply to: ldjackson58
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 2:21pm
Hi L and welcome to the board!
Pam
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Registered: 07-22-2003
In reply to: ldjackson58
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 2:48pm

Hi and welcome to our board. You'll finds lots of information and support on this board. I have two daughters 18 and almost 20, both headed to or already in college so my "crazy daughter days" are almost over too. I do seem to find that they grow up a lot once they're in college.

I can't comment on your son's personality because I haven't raised boys but perhaps he won't be so "quiet" once your daughter is gone... too much competition for air time. :>)

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Registered: 07-16-2007
In reply to: ldjackson58
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 2:54pm

Thanks so for the welcomes

You are right about my dd sucking all the air. She is a talker which lets my son off the hook and hooked into his ipod. We'll see what can be done come August with one-on-one car rides alone with mom.

L

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Registered: 02-10-2006
In reply to: ldjackson58
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 3:53pm
Just wanted to say hi! I am mom to DS 19 sophomore(college); DS 17 senior HS & DD 15 sophomore HS. As you can imagine my nutty days with DD are still in full swing;)
Welcome!
Sharon
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In reply to: ldjackson58
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 11:08pm

Welcome to the board L!

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In reply to: ldjackson58
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 1:22am

Got one of those too- a quiet boy--but mine is nearly 17. My oldest, a girl, will be 19 at the end of the month.
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Registered: 10-25-2006
In reply to: ldjackson58
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 9:27am

"But I think the worst is yet to come with a non-communicative boy still in the house."

I've got one of those who was a compliant sweetheart until age 15.5, got less commuicative at 16.5, and became some trouble at 17, and will be off to college in August. He's basically a good kid/student, but he's had me worrying endlessly the past 8 mos. This board helps A LOT! Welcome!

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Registered: 07-16-2007
In reply to: ldjackson58
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 10:34am

Morning All

You guys are so encouraging...I think I'm going to have fun here! I guess the answer for the moms of non-talking boys is to keep asking questions; even when you get answers like A-W-K-W-A-R-D. I'm hoping to find an activity, maybe golf, that we can do together to encourage more "casual" conversation. My daughter and I could always go shopping or do lunch. Plus she's just more open about her life.

Thanks for all the words of wisdom

L

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Registered: 10-03-2006
In reply to: ldjackson58
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 8:10pm

Welcome! I am sure that you will love it here. It is such a great board and all of the people are nice and informative. My name is Natalie and I have 3 children: Kelan who is 20 and Jade and Marissa who are 15. I am divorced but thankfully have a good relationship with my ex and I am happily seeing someone.

It was always really easy for me to talk to the girls since we could always go shopping or out to lunch. Surprisingly though, Kelan wasn't too quiet. I could get him to open up easily about things like his girlfriend and why he was in a bad mood. He doesn't tell me everything and God knows I don't want to know everything, but we still have a nice time together. He is a lot less stressful than the girls too. Since he got into college more things about what he did in high school started coming out like how he did actually drink a few times and assured me he never drove, how he would occasionally lie and go to Mexico(we live like 30 minutes away from the boarder), and how he really broke his arm a few years ago. His tool of being selectively open actually worked to his advantage because I trusted him more, but this is why I tell him to go to law school.

Natalie