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| Tue, 01-31-2006 - 1:50pm |
I am a 44 yo single father of two, 13/DD and 10/DS. My Ex, who lives close by, is pretty much a nutcase.
My DD suffered quite a bit during the divorce. She is emotionally fragile, doesn't seem to be able to keep her friendships working. Has anxiety issues, problems staying in school all day, that sort of thing. My DD maintains zero contact with her mother (my Ex).
I noticed 3 or 4 scratches on her forearm last evening. I asked how she got them, she said she didn't know. A few hours later she admitted that she did them with a pair of scissors! When I asked her why, she didn't have an answer, at least not one she was willing to give me.
I'm in a panic. I want to help my daughter. I've called her counselor, waiting for a call back.
I know that the Ex will grab onto this in our upcoming Custody Evaluation with a "see what he's causing". This is the least of my worries, because DD would never agree to move in with her on even a semi-permanent basis.
Any suggestions.

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Hey,
BTDT... a couple of times. For my DD, it was for attention. I put her into counseling the first time, it really freaked me out (at that time I was a singlemom,bio dad no where to be found). Last time, my DH did some tough love. She got into trouble, we grounded her. She cut on her leg.... then came out and showed us. DH, unfazzed by this (I'm falling apart) did the tough love thing and told her if she wanted to die, we'd miss her terribly... but we weren't going to feel sorry for her(it's what she wanted).
Your DD is asking for help the only way she knows how....get it for her. If you attend Church, You might want to bring in your pastor too. Mine helped me threw this and a h@ll of a lot worse! GL!
In my prayers.
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